I am a single mother of 3 and I help take care of my 4 yr old nephew. My daughter has behavioral problems and is going to be evaluated by a child phycrisist. Her behavior is very abnromal for a 3 yr old. Along with my other 2 i am under tremendous stress. I am on nerve medication and I have now developed insomia. I have help from my parents but their health is not great. My mom just lost both of her parents within the past month. My children's father is not in the picture. My sister has mental issues and is unable to take care of her son. My parents have him but I help. I am at the end of my rope. I have very little time to myself which I understand being a single mother of 3 time for youself is a rare occasion. Is there anything anybody can think of that will lessen the stress and make me and my kids more happy. When I am stressed out they can tell. Please help. I want to enjoy my life not be stressed over it all the time.
2006-12-22 12:13:46 · 12 answers · asked by Sarah G 3 in Health ➔ Mental Health
If you're like me, you may not have the funds to go indulge in a massage, so be sure you get your kids into bed early, then take those 1 or 2 hours to relax to yourself.
You can read a book or watch tv in peace (without interruptions from the kids) or soak in the tub. That's the only way I can recuperate. If my nerves are totally frazzled I make sure the kids are down early. I homeschool and enjoy my nightly mini vacations. I'd go nuts without it.
Also try valerian extract from a health food store or online it will help you relax and at a higher dose will help you sleep better too. I recommend iherb.com if you have to get it online.
2006-12-22 12:25:14 · answer #1 · answered by mycountryfamily 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have an big load you are carrying around, and with Christmas approaching fast, it is no wonder you feel stressed. I think it is possible that after Christmas you may not feel so stressed out. If you do however, I would suggest gathering your kids up along with your nephew and going to a park where they can run and scream, walk and enjoy fresh air. This should tire everyone out to come home and have a nice rest. Get your kids an art set. It might hold their attention long enough for you to wind down and have a cup of tea. You need to lesson your load a bit by not feeling like you have to care for your nephew also. I know your mother is feeling down over the loss of her parents, but you are the only person on this earth who is going to look out for you!
2006-12-22 12:19:17 · answer #2 · answered by Charles & Elizabeth C 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Take some deep breaths, close your eyes and slow down your breathing. Take 5 minutes for yourself sometime during the day. I'm sure you could get 5 minutes, right?
Get a massage somewhere... or get your nails done or a new hairdo. In other words, do something FOR YOU. As some one who takes care of kids, I know that finding "me time" is tough. But for your own sanity and health, you have to try to do it.
2006-12-22 12:19:46 · answer #3 · answered by barrych209 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take at least a 30 minute walk 3 times a week outside by yourself
2006-12-22 13:17:08 · answer #4 · answered by Marian 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well try some recreational masturbation it is a great stress reliever and will certainly take some stress off.
2006-12-22 12:24:43 · answer #5 · answered by crawler 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sit down for a couple hours and write out a plan or schedule. That way, u wont have to go crazy over everything. just give yourself some time to calm down.
2006-12-22 12:24:30 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
my moms had to raise two kids on her own. so if you want moral support i'm here to listen dogmicjoe@yahoo.com. try joining my new group openluv@yahoogroups.com i suffer from a mental illness. i'm bipolar. any qusetions you need answered i may help. if you have any concerns that are troubling you please call 1800 lifenet or 1800 273 talk. God will help you. you are a great mother. lol
2006-12-22 12:46:46 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
have someone give you a massage and if you alot of anxiety feel really stressed take a deep breath in, count back from 10 and blow out slowly
2006-12-22 12:18:15 · answer #8 · answered by Stephanie 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you even have the time
exercise is a great stress reliever
2006-12-22 12:16:50 · answer #9 · answered by Bren 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Check out ( http://www.reducingstress.net )
They have great information and help for when you are stressed.
2006-12-26 08:09:40 · answer #10 · answered by marketingexpert 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋