My boyfriend and i have gotten into a really big arguement and it lead to a break up. Although, i meant it at the time we were going at it. Now, I don't want to lose him. You know how it is when a person gets mad and things just come flying right out of your mouth before thinking about it? I've done my share of being mad and i made an effort to tell him how much i'm sorry. Honestly, is it really necessary for him to say "if you can prove it that you want to be with me, then i'll get back with you."? what the hell is that? I had a few tell me it's either he wants to be with me or not. If he doesn't want to be with me then why try to fight for something he might not even want? I have nothing to prove to him. i love him and i want to be with him, but i just don't know how to tell him...
2006-12-22 12:08:05 · 16 answers · asked by lady hiphop 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
If you two are past the cool down period, then you should heal this through communication, but start simple. Neither has anything to prove, but you should slowly move towards reconciliation (asking and recieving forgivenesss). He should give it annother chance if he ever cared in the first place, just beware of a grudge or lasting bitterness. Feelings like those shouldn't even enter his or your minds when trying to repair things.
2006-12-22 12:17:20 · answer #1 · answered by Liam R 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends on how much you are willing to go through. You shouldn't have to prove to him that you want to be with him because if he loved you he would be happy that the argument would be over. You just need to sit down with him and say this is how I feel. I can do it without you, but I would rather go through life with you. Either he says okay lets get together or he doesn't and then you get your girls together for a cry night. After that night you move on and try to check out other guys and get someone else in your heart. It is a very slow and painful process but a rebound guy is the quickest way to get over him if he doesn't want to get back together. Would you really want to waste time in your life for someone who doesn't really want to be with you? Good Luck. The only thing you can do is be honest with him and let him say yes or no. Best wishes and blessings.
2006-12-22 20:23:29 · answer #2 · answered by Kat 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Being with someone and in a relationship is really not this hard. If it is, it is not ever going to work and is not worth your time.
Even in anger things are said which have some truth to them, so heed your own warning.
Relationships do take work, but it is never this difficult, esp when both ppl are in it together and have that mutal respect for one another.
Sounds to me like he is trying to get out of the relationship w/out breaking up w/you so he's not the "bad guy". Men do it all the time - why they can't have some balls I don't know.
2006-12-22 20:12:27 · answer #3 · answered by hjfr27 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well I would say if you are the reason that you two broke up, and you don't want to lose him then you do need to prove to him that you want to be with him. And if you are not the reason, you still have proven to him that you want to be with him by making the effort to tell him that. If he is asking you to do everything including giving him the moon to prove it then maybe you two shouldn't be together right now. If he wants to be with you as bad as you want to be with him, then he will show you the same gesture as you are portraying to him... Good luck...
2006-12-22 20:19:09 · answer #4 · answered by Phoenix 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell him just that. maybe he doesnt believe you. Since We do not know what you said there is no way to know how he feels. but if you want him back then tell him. I will prove it to you by the way I treat you and what I tell you. thats all I can do. The rest is up to him. and remember this the next time you get upset. sometimes the things you say can't be unsaid or undone.
2006-12-22 20:12:38 · answer #5 · answered by Armond B 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dont force him to get back with you...& dont keep telling him that your sorry because he might get tired of it and he may never want you back. Take it day by day and try to work things out calmly. & if he is telling you that you have to prove that you want to be with him & not know that you do then maybe you should just let him go because he should already know that you wanna work things out if you are telling him sorry!
2006-12-22 20:12:47 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Whatever you said must have been pretty hurtful. You just showed him a side of you that he didn't like. Now he's wondering if he really wants to see that side of you come out again. He probably wants some reassurance that he won't see your evil twin again. You can't say hurtful things to people (especially someone you're supposed to love) and expect that they will hang around for it to happen again, and forgive you for saying them.
2006-12-22 20:22:57 · answer #7 · answered by dathinman8 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if he makes a statement like "you have to prove it", then im afraid to say that he really doesnt understand what love really is. true love is forgiving, and he doesnt sound like he is willing or able to do it. love, like faith, does not operate on "proof". i would say he doesnt want to be with you. move on. is this really the kind of man you can see yourself spending a whole lifetime with?love is a rocky road, and if he is going to demand proof for evrything, then its going to be a long,hard, and impossible journey for you to walk the road with him. he needs to do some serious maturing.
2006-12-22 20:14:45 · answer #8 · answered by mickey 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if he said that it means he still wants to be with you. maybe he just is unsure. just tell him how much you love him and you dont want a stupid fight to get inbetween you. just say that you didnt mean what you said (unless you really did, dont lie) and think about why you want to be with him and tell him EVERYTHING that goes thru your head
2006-12-22 20:11:40 · answer #9 · answered by sexyg0pher770 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think he uh wants you to go...downtown. I don't know how else he could mean prove it.
I say dump the chump he sounds unsavory.
2006-12-22 20:10:18 · answer #10 · answered by alwaysmoose 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋