What would you do if your ex-boyfriend acts like you never broke up?

Question

We dated for almost 4 years, almost got married. We have been broken up for almost 2 years. We have been seeing each other now and then but nothing serious. He says he still loves me. But then he does odd, annoying things, like for instance he offered to help me out with a problem. And the next day he totally forgets or doesn't want to talk about it.

Answer 1

I think the real question is do you still love him or have feelings for him?? Why do you still want him around after two year? Did you break up with him is that why he still loves you??

So you need to make a choice, either go for it and get back together, dont play with his heart if he is on love with you, all you will do is drag him on and he will never move on and get older and older and remain single because he loves you and thinks there is a chance because you see him off and on as you say.

OR you stop seeing him all together and cut off all ties, keep your distance and hope he stays away. Over time he will move on and meet somone new, but that will never happen if you are still in his life. When you love someone enough it is impossible to let them go in your heart when you see them all the time.

the last option which is not what i really suggest, is to talk to him, telll him how you feel that you want to see him like you are, but do not want the relationship you once had. Close friends with benefits if you are both up to that, but that can be tricky cause if you date another guy he will get super jealous or vice versa.

I suggest the first or second depending on how you still feel about him and the future with him.

I have been with my g/f for 9 years on and off because she is married but seperated and just has not done the necessary paperwirk to finish it off. It is frustrating for me because i love her so much I want to marry her, and not nine years later she still has not signed the papers yet she wants me. I understand the situation very well. Dont drag him on or lead him on if you have no intentions of being with him again unless you both agree to make it a open relationship which IMO usually turns into a disaster.

Answer 2

I think that he is haveing a tough time getting over you and he just kinda wants to help... it either that or he's stalking you because he loves you that much... He is probably having trouble letting go i mean you guys went out for like 4 years and almost got married.

Answer 3

i think of that he's haveing a no longer straight forward time getting over you and he in basic terms kinda needs to help... it the two that or he's stalking you by using fact he loves you that lots... he's probable having difficulty letting bypass i recommend you adult males went out for like 4 years and fairly in basic terms approximately have been given married.

Answer 4

don't you hate that? my boyfriend and i of 4 years broke up awhile ago and he still talks to me like NOTHING except there are no i love yous, no hugs, or no kisses. its like, you lost this and you need to deal wit that. i just keep telling him its over and to leave me alone. [this is because we still have to live together until the lease is up] otherwise neither of us will have the chance to miss each other.

Answer 5

Sounds like a loser. You need to cut ties completely

Answer 6

Slowly distance yourself from him. He sounds like he is getting possessive in his thinking.

Answer 7

He is codependent. You are enabling him by "seeing each other now and then".

Answer 8

maybe he come to his senses.

Answer 9

dont talk to him.