my ladyfriend and i have been together for about a year. weve had our normal ups and downs like all relationships. about a week ago she tells me that she wants to become friends with her ex. whom she had a relationship with for 2 years prior to ours and broke up with me for him about 7 months ago, then we started dating again 6 months ago, anyway the whole weak before today she is acting really weird, like almost avoiding me, she tells me that her mom has been making her think about things, like us not going to college together and her hanging out with her friends more instead of me. is she looking for an excuse to break up wit hme for her ex? does she not want to date anymore? what does everyone think she is thinking and what should I do?
2006-12-22 11:25:43 · 13 answers · asked by T-NutZ 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I think that's enough vibes to believe she wants some space. I know i'm 48 and I'm about to sound JUST like my mom, but you're SO YOUNG and you'll find someone who really wants to be with you forever, your soul mate. You'll know it, too.
On the other hand, you should have a serious talk, because if you misread her signs, and she isbeing strange for some reason you don't know about, she should be able to tell you.
I swore when I was your age I'd never talk like my mom, and now I do it all the time, but I really believe it.
2006-12-22 11:28:58 · answer #1 · answered by firefly 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I personally think from what you've told me that she's deciding about things, possibly you and her ex, may-be decorating for the holidays. There could be many possibilities, so don't take my word since I don't know her, but she does. Ask her, meet with her privatley or a date and ask her what's going on, if she wants to break up with you, she'll probaly'll do it then, if she does I guess you two just weren't mean to be. If she does, move on and don't be in a slump. See other people, and if she asks you out again, say no she'll probably either do the same thing because she just asked because you made her jealous, or 35% chance she changed (so unlikely if you were hanging with a girl, she really is jealpous i'm a girl I should know).
SUGGESTIONS: - Hang with her like normal take her out a romantic date (not movies) - don't jump to conclusions -talk to her - talk to her ex
2006-12-22 19:36:15 · answer #2 · answered by [S.M.I.L.E] :) 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you're right to be suspicious about your girlfriends actions. But the only way to find out is to sit her down and ask her how serious she is about your relationship. Now when you do this you have to go in with an open mind to the fact that she might say she doesn't want to be with you anymore(b/c she did it once before). My mom does not like my boyfriend and at times, told me I should talk to other people, but I never told my boyfriend this, b/c if I did I knew it would hurt him as it did you. Like I said sit her down and talk to her, ask her if she's real and if she's not, move on, you seem like a pretty descent guy, and the perfect girl for you is out there. You'll probably even find her when you go off to college. Good Luck.
2006-12-22 19:31:55 · answer #3 · answered by bre714 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow. thats complicate. umm.. well u really love her alot right? if i was in ur situation, i would just flat out ask her. ask her if she would rather go back out w/ her ex. i'm a 13-year-old girl, so i can't really tell from ur POV what u feel, but i sure as hell know how i'd fell. if she tells u that she dose still want to go out w/ her ex, fiond a new girl friend. i don't mean to offend u in anyway, shape, or form, but if she keeps breaking up w/ u for her ex, mabey she just dosen't love u as much as she says she does. the best way to find out is to ask her.
2006-12-22 19:31:13 · answer #4 · answered by In Need of Help 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like she wants to brake-up with u but don't know how....
She probably don't want to hurt your feelings....
If you really want to know what is on her mind u need to go to her and ask her if she really want to be with you... that way you and her would be able to separate on good terms...
Hope the best for you..
Good luck...
just remember there are always more girls
2006-12-22 19:31:30 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
She may not really want to be wif her ex but she's trying 2 break off wif u. Juz let her cool down n let her think who she really wanna b wif.
2006-12-22 19:33:34 · answer #6 · answered by icycool 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She's confused and fears the unknown, she is trying to spread herself around because she is going to miss everybody, and she's scared of what is going to happen between you two. Make sure she knows how important she is to you. You have to pour your heart out, tough to do.
2006-12-22 19:30:45 · answer #7 · answered by Sean B 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
she's looking for a way out, will more then likely pick a fight about nothing and blow it up into a big deal and you'll be to blame. save yourself the drama and cut your loses..sorry dude
2006-12-22 19:31:12 · answer #8 · answered by that guy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
get rid of her... if your going to college you dont want to be tied down to one girl...college is full of new oportunities... take as many as you can... worry about a girlfriend once that part of your life is over... you'll be glad you did...
2006-12-22 19:31:18 · answer #9 · answered by Michael G 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh yeah she is frantically looking for an excuse. Dump her before she dumps you, and tell her that she is trashy and used up.
2006-12-22 19:28:48 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋