My 16 mo old daughter has begun insisting I spend every second on the floor with her or holding her. If I have to cook dinner or do something for even a second she has a complete and total meltdown.
Should I just let her have a fit for a while with the thought that she can't demand every second? How will she ever learn she can't have everything she wants instantly? Or does she really need me now?
2006-12-22 11:19:13 · 9 answers · asked by Jilli Bean 5 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Toddler & Preschooler
I know exactly what you are going through and I feel your pain every time you hear that little angle crying. Let her scream rant and rave honey because if you give in to your pain you will never get that pain to go away. I'm talking about you head and your heartache. She can cry and it won't hurt her at all believe me when I say she knows what she is doing to her sensitive mommy. I know this because I am a mother of four girls and my first 2 {twins} used it and to this day they still throw tantrums . My youngest 2 girls 4 and 6 no tantrums since about a year old. I let them cry, For my sanity. OH also as long as you know she is ok she will be fine. Give her what she needs not what she wants. She will adjust to your needs too. She is a baby and she is your little prisoner you are not hers. Yes I am a strict but loving mother now but my head hurts a lot less and there are a lot more smiles and less tears in our home now.
2006-12-22 11:47:06 · answer #1 · answered by Bubbles 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My heart goes out to you! It's the classic case of what I call "mother guilt"--I've got work to do (whether in the house or outside of the home) but I want to be the best mom too! I never knew what to do, but my gut tells me a little time alone wouldn't hurt her. I can tell you that it gets better around 2 years! I was so pleasantly surprised this past summer (my son is now 2.5) when I could sit on the couch and READ (yup--real grown-up books) while he played legos on the floor. Granted, this was in short time-spurts, but it was very nice. So, my answer? Maybe she's still a little young to play on her own, but she's getting there. Now the bad mommy answer: how about a tiny amount of tv/video when you have to cook? (Sorry--I do believe it's okay once in a while.)
Good luck!
2006-12-22 11:54:08 · answer #2 · answered by Bookworm4224 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try to get her interested in something else when you have things to do.
For example:
When you cook, give her a large plastic bowl and some mixing spoons. Let her pour a little water in her bowl and maybe some flour or something and let her stir it up so she thinks she's helping with dinner. Let her shred lettuce for salad. They will be big huge leafs, but you can always fix it when she's done.
With cleaning, give her a rag and have her "clean" the walls, or baseboards, or whatever.
Eventually, she'll not need you all the time, and you'll be teaching her some good lessons in the process!
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2006-12-22 11:43:35 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
What I used to do with my kids when they were going through this stage, is take them to their bedrooms, pop them in their cots and let them yell, they often calmed down after 5 mins, I would tell them before I left their room, that I would be back in 5 mins, but they wont be coming out of their rooms till they had settled down, in a calm voice.
Your absolutly right when you say that your little girls needs to learn that instant gratification isn't how life works. Also you need to establish well structured boundries, so that she understands (eventually) that you have to have your time and she needs her time...(if that makes any sense at all!!!!)
Good Luck...
2006-12-22 11:29:09 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
she needs to have her fit. Once she has 3-4 tantrums and you ignore her, she will see that doesn't work for her. My daughter used to throw tantrums all the time. That to me is not how you get attention in my house, you use your words. I totally ignored her. Well I tried... sometimes she looked so silly kicking and screaming and crying becuase she couldn't have one cookie. Sometimes it was so silly I'd laugh. I didn't mean too, and it made her more mad, but it helped me detach and keep from getting angry and frustrated
2006-12-22 11:23:14 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
have one with her, it will freak her out and take some of the fun of upsetting you away. Laugh and clap and get others in on it too, I would love to see you do it. Take the power away from this young person, kids don't control adults unless you let them
2006-12-22 11:23:38 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Try to ignore her,,, put on the cartoon channel or animal planet, anything to get her mind off of you.It will not hurt her to have a fit...........
2006-12-22 11:22:34 · answer #7 · answered by avery 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would let her cry it out... Just make sure she is in a safe place where no harm can come to her.... Good luck
2006-12-22 11:23:36 · answer #8 · answered by michaellandonsmommy 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I know this sucks but let her have her fits.She will stop eventually.Have fun listening to it though!!!!Merry Christmas!!!
2006-12-22 11:23:57 · answer #9 · answered by Mr Bellows 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋