OK, so there is this guy I like. He lives over in England and I was wondering should I tell him I like him through email? Or not! I lived over there for a while and now I am back here. I met him whilst I was over there. He wanted to date when I was there, but at the time I couldn't. I was struggling with an eating disorder and i didn't feel like it was a good time to date anyone. I didnt tell him about the eating disorder but Well im back here in the states now and I still have feelings for him. But im not sure if he likes me anymore. We email eachother and I dont know how to tell. Any advice?
2006-12-22 11:18:07 · 18 answers · asked by Fi 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
should i eventually tell him about my eating disorder. Im struggling with it a little bit, its not as bad as it was...but its still hard.
2006-12-22 11:18:59 · update #1
Thank you everyone for your answers!!!! I really appreciate it, you have no idea. Its really hard to pick the best answer. Happy Holidays!!!
2006-12-23 06:53:55 · update #2
Yes, do so if you wish. Of course the distance thing is going to be rather difficult for you if he reciprocates the feelings and he may wonder why you've chosen to wait until now to tell him! So if you are going to do it, you'd be as well to come clean and tell him about the eating disorder too. Ultimately it is all up to you, but the distance thing is the biggest problem as far as I can see.
...Whaddaya know, I can answer a question without making fun of the person asking it! :-)
2006-12-22 11:20:15 · answer #1 · answered by Oliver T 4 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Well it depends!!! Are You A shy girl or an blunt person???? That doesnt sound like a good idea telling him through email I would go with him and just talk about things and just ask him How he feels about you now that you have moved is he feelings still the same as they were?? Let him now honestly how you feel but if email is the only way you two have for contact Where would it lead to anyways????
2006-12-22 11:21:54 · answer #2 · answered by Andrea A 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your age would help. Eating disorders are serious and complex. It tells me that you probably have emotional problems underlying and possibly until they are addressed, it would not be smart nor fair to the other party to tell them anything or enter into any kind of relationship right now. Get the essential help you need first. Friendship is always a plus and a great way to really get to know someone.
2006-12-22 11:31:38 · answer #3 · answered by lahag66 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My advice would be for you to come clean with him.......about everything. I would email him, because you can put thought into what you say and how you explain yourself.
Tell him why you didn't date him while you were there.........explaining the eating disorder, and why you weren't at a place where you felt you could get into a relationship.
Tell him that you find you do still have feelings for him, and that you would like to explore that.
Be honest with him. He will appreciate that more than giving him half stories............and it will be better to get it out in the open in the beginning.
Good luck! :)
2006-12-22 11:26:56 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Okay this is kinda hard...
My opinion:tell him you like him, there is a good chance that he will respond the same way. I am assuming this because he was the one who wanted that date. But you should tell him you have an eating disorder. He will truly like you if he doesn't care about your eating disorder. (Honestly I think its pretty messed up to not like someone just because of an eating disorder)
My sister's opinion: don't tell him you lik ehim. He is in another country. Love is hard if you are like more than 2000 miles away. So I suggest you just stay as friends.
I hope you find either one of our suggestions helpful.
2006-12-22 11:26:50 · answer #5 · answered by Kathrine 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My advice is not to start a romantic relationship with him until your eating disorder is completely under wraps. Let him know that you want to be friends and tell him about the eating disorder. This way you have someone there to support you through your healing process and if you want to have a relationship later on with him, you guys are already friends.
2006-12-22 11:22:09 · answer #6 · answered by Loki's Mommy 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Write him a letter and send it to him. That way if he really wants a relationship with you he will take the time to sit and write you back. Email is very impersonal and it doesnt say the same thing as a written letter. Good on you for not getting involved during your problem. Always take care of you first.
2006-12-22 11:22:50 · answer #7 · answered by redscarlet_witch 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Ok first e-mail and tell him that you like him and did when you were in England, also tell him why, tell him about your eating disorder, it is a big part of your life, now after all this if he wants to continue a relationship with you then good, you have done what you should have done to begin with.
2006-12-22 11:22:29 · answer #8 · answered by picture 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
First you should ask yourself if there is any reason to commit to a really long distance relationship. Then tell your self that you don't have to hide this problem from those whom really care about you. they will help if they don't they don't care. My advice is to go on with your life here and continue doing better for your self I understand the lonely thing and having a problem with it. Find yourself a support group, or a really close friendship that will listen to your problems. Without being judgmental. Experience
2006-12-22 11:26:36 · answer #9 · answered by readyglow 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think you should just tell him that you're ready to date now, and if he's already moved on then there's nothing more you can do. You should tell him about your eating disorder, im sure he will understand. i went through this same problem and it actually helped me a lot to have a boyfriend to talk to about it. good luck and happy christmas!!
2006-12-22 11:23:00 · answer #10 · answered by Who, Me?? ...I'm Lost... 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋