It feels impossible to get over him. How do you do it?

Question

I've been trying to truly get over my ex for so long now. I've been so upset about it lately. My friends haven't been helping at all. I'm so sad but I know it must be over. I wanted to call my friend because I need to get my mind off of it. I end up dialing his number and not even thinking about it. I was shocked that I did it. I let it ring once and realized and hung up. I just naturally dialed the number. This is horrible. How do you get over someone when you are so alone in the world?

Answer 1

well i think a lot of people have been through this. including me. that is why the best advice i can give you is that you will eventually forget about him. its really hard at first, but after a while calling him wont feel natural anymore. of course it might or will take a long while. but he wont be in your mind forever, that i can assure you. in the meantimem, try to keep yourself as busy as possible doing things that you love. things that keep your mind busy AND wont remind you of him. if you havent already throw away his stuff, or donate the things that might benefit others, like teddy bears and such. if you do this, i promise you in time, you will forget about him. something you shouldnt do, look for someone. it's too risky and complicated. you might make yourself think that you can invest your feelings for your ex in this other person and this will make your pain greater. hope i helped.

Answer 2

m going through the EXACT same thing !! Well i just take it day by day dont force urself 2 date anyone right now b/c all it will do is remind u of how different he is from them. Just be alone 4 a while rediscover urself realize that u are an individual and dont need any1 2 complete you, he was just an enhacement, you are still the base structure and you can and will survive this!!!!! Start hanging around friends and once u do start dating again, go on double dates so you can all hang out as a group. I know it hurts but u will get through this, it takes time and believe me ur gonna cry and feel like all hope is gone but 1 day ur gonna wake up and realize that this is one of many heartbreaks 2 come so you might as well move on learn from it and b ready 4 da next 1. and more often than not , when your finally over him he will realize what he lost and then the ball is in ur court. love is just a funny thing lol so ill b praying 4 u stay strong and try to just relax a little everything will wrk out

Answer 3

Your alone because this is what you want. If you did not want to be alone, you would do something about it. Go out with other friends and do something more constructive than dwelling on it all the time. You were not shocked that you dialed the number, you did it on purpose, but changed your mind. You are the only one that can make your life better, if you wait for someone else to do it, you may be waiting for a very long time. Get up, get out and do it.

Answer 4

Thats just it, you cant get over him if you dont do anything to move on. And your not alone in this world, you have a whole life that doesnt need him in order to live it. When you love someone, they will always hold a special place in your heart. And you will remember them forever, but at the same time you need to make room in your heart for someone new. Just dont go looking for a replacement, that never works, it just makes you feel worse. Live your life, enjoy time with family and have fun with your friends. Eventually his memory will be pushed to the back of your mind and all these new memories will take his place. It will take a while, its not an overnight thing, but you have to start somewhere and soon. Good luck...

Answer 5

Awwwwwww I'm sorry. This is one of the worst things. I'm going through something similar. I fell in love with a guy I was seeing but he is only interested in me for sex. It hurts sooooooo bad. We will probably hurt over it until we find someone else to love. Start looking for other guys. It may take a while, but eventually there has to be someone. Also sometimes what helps me is to think of his bad qualities. Instead of building him up into this great guy that "got away" think about the things about him that bothered you (there has to be something) and imagine meeting a guy that has all his good qualities and none of his bad, and even a few more good qualities than the ex. I know it hurts though. I feel this pain in the pitt of my stomach all the time. Feels almost like someone kicked me in the stomach. It sucks.

Answer 6

Well let me start off by saying I was in that same boat a little while ago, I thought it would be impossible to get over my ex. But what I did was talked to him to let him know that I still loved him and that I would always love him, and that we needed to be friend in order for me to get him off my mind as a boyfriend. That way really worked for me. Maybe you're going to have to think of your own way to make things more comfortable for the both of you. Because if you two just start to ignore the feelings you two are going start disliking each other, believe me it happened.

Good Luck and Merry Christmas!!!

Answer 7

Well trust me it's not easy i'm still in love with my ex, we're still friends and all but it's so hard seeing him everyday with his fiancee, i honestly don't think you'll ever be completely over it and it's gonna hurt for a very long time. The only thing you can do is well your gonna end up having a couple breakdowns, and then realize it wasn't meant to be and your better off without him, Best of luck to you darling.

Answer 8

Girlfriend, you need a girl's night out!! Just us girls and no men! No more sitting around the house, where you can't do anything better than think of that ex. Change of scenery. Clubbing, dancing, pedicures, it's time to take some time out for yourself, because that is the beauty of being a bachelorette. Yeah sistah!

Answer 9

you can't help who you fall in love with and you can't stop the feelings from coming. But what you can do is just give it time. I'm still in love wit my ex but by moving on and seein new people it kinda delays the feelings but whenever someone mentions his name or anything about him i just crumble i never felt this way before so if you find a good answer please share it.

Answer 10

its going to sound really dumb, but you find someone better and hope they like you back. i was depressed from so many horrible relationships and then i took a chance on my boyfriend. hes seriously all i have now and our relationship is very special and unique. your time will come, dont worry, just be patient. when it comes, you will know. good luck!