When we started to date a year ago, he and his wife were separated and about to divorce. But they did not get it done dueo to the distance, finance, and the two kids.
Recently he was recalled by army and will be deployed to Iraq for 1+ year. So the divorce was put on hold again. But he begged me not to give up on him, as I will be the only hope to keep him motivated there. Yet he could not promise me anything after one year, as he may want to stay in the army for better career, better pay, and better sense of achievement.
He really loves me but he just has too many things (career, kids) more important than me. So I will never make to the top priority.
I'm willing to do anything to keep him safe and positive. I don't want to leave him when he needs me the most. But I'm also scared. What if after I suffer a year of anxiety and agony just to find out there's really no hope? Should I call it quit now or not?
2006-12-22 11:00:16 · 5 answers · asked by Questions 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I see your point. Maybe you could weigh things out a bit. Compare all the good points to the bad points...and go from there. But I also feel that if he really wanted to divorce his wife, he would have done this by now. Think about that........best of luck to you. Merry Christmas.
2006-12-22 11:07:41 · answer #1 · answered by cajunrescuemedic 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Okay are his wife and him still seperated? Sorry, But I have to think he is finding reasons not to divorce. You are thinking about his mental well-being but it doesn't sound like he's thinking of yours. Sounds like he's awful needy. He needs to mature.
2006-12-22 19:06:27 · answer #2 · answered by Virginia C 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it sounds like if he hasnt done it already he may not do it at all or at least for a long time more. he is in no rush and your letting him get away with it. let him go and move on.
2006-12-22 19:04:45 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Leave or he will leave you. He is finding a simple way of actually saying good bye to you.
2006-12-22 19:03:51 · answer #4 · answered by Andrea D. 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Quit. He's just playing you.
2006-12-22 19:03:34 · answer #5 · answered by jovijunkee 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋