me and my baby father has been going through drama for a year now( that's how long we been apart), and he wants our daughter to go over his house sunday(christmas eve) , but anyway I don't want her to go because he told my ma that when our baby cried over his house he just put her in the play pen and let her cry her self to sleep, so am i wrong for thinking about saying no? , he can come over here to see her though. Help!
2006-12-22 10:59:24 · 3 answers · asked by twiggy_vienna_love 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Just ask him not to do that and if he doesn't agree then let him know that you, as the mother think it would be best for him to come to your house until she's older. I wouldn't want my baby to cry herself to sleep either, unless I was there to know when enough was enough. I spoiled my kids though but I only had them little for a short period of time, so I didn't care I worked on that later.
2006-12-22 11:04:03 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
There is, in fact, a parenting philosophy which I've read about called the "cry it out" method. It seems to receive as much merit as chastisement, from what I've read about it. The basic idea is that if you bring your attention to the baby for every little thing, there won't be a reason for the baby to learn to distinguish between what is "important" and what is "not so important". Frankly, I'm not sure, in my gut, that a baby really knows anything other than "I'm comfortable" or "I'm uncomfortable" with various causes for each. To each their own, though, as they say.
2006-12-22 23:13:10 · answer #2 · answered by G A 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
do what is best for the baby, maybe you should bring her over and stay for a few hours? Show you can compromise but not be mowed over.
2006-12-22 19:24:14 · answer #3 · answered by spitfin 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋