In fact, I like her a lot.
Her boyfriend, on the other hand, is perfect for me, and we constantly lock eyes and just... we have a thing. (Obviously I would never do more than look at him.)
When I was with my (now ex) boyfriend, he told my boyfriend he was lucky to have me. It was so cute. He is bored with his relationship with this girl, but I think she's great and I want her to be happy.
Still... that doesn't keep me from wanting to run off and marry this guy, if the situation were different. :(
Is this normal?? How do I get over it?
2006-12-22 10:54:16 · 5 answers · asked by well... 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Yes, it's normal. But are you sure it's not just infatuation or lust? Sometimes our own minds and hearts can play tricks on us.
You seem to at least have a heart for other people which seems to be rare and that's awesome. But if you really believe he is your soul mate, being that he is currently in this relationship with this girl you like, you should probably distance yourself a bit until they break up. If they aren't meant to be they will break up in time. You don't want to be part of the cause...trust me. That's bad news right there. If you allow yourself to be around him when you can't have him, it's just so tempting. Besides, if he manages to cheat on her with you, chances are if you two get together, you'll always have in the back of your mind that he's doing the same to you...And you obviously need trust to have a relationship. Also I imagine that him being with her hurts you a bit. So yeah, help yourself but distancing yourself until THEY make the decision to split.
That's the best advice I can give. I've been in similar situations and I know how tough they can be, but in order to save your heart and trust until the two of you can be together, its the best thing you can do. Good luck!
2006-12-22 11:13:09 · answer #1 · answered by Jessica 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You sound like a very kind person. so let me tell you that you need to keep yourself just that way. When your so called soul mate realizes that you are the one for him, and he is so bored with his relationship with his current girlfriend (HE told you that, right? not a new one, believe me) Then he should do the breaking up and then you two can ride off to the sunset together and live happily ever after.
The most important thing you must do right now is remove yourself completely from that situation. hang out with other people then those two. If this love between him and you is meant to be, it will happen. You are single and he is not. So it's really up to him,
Make absolutely sure that you date the guy for a while and do not rush into a sexual relationship, just to be certain this is what you truly think it is. OK?
I hope it works out for you, love is never easy...
All the best. be smart, be safe, good luck.
2006-12-22 19:03:41 · answer #2 · answered by artist-oranit.com. 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's with SOMEONE ELSE! Leave him alone! If he's really the one for you it'll come soon enough. You don't just go after someone else's man. Relationships are hard enough! And you like this girl? But you're perfectly willing to stab her in the back? Some friend you must be!
2006-12-22 18:58:34 · answer #3 · answered by Sandra 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it is EXTREMELY normal. but you don't have to get over it just don't interfere with them. good luck and i hope what is ever best for you and him happen
2006-12-22 18:57:37 · answer #4 · answered by foooooood 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hey have fun with all them
2006-12-22 18:56:03 · answer #5 · answered by rpoker 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋