me and dad fighting alot what do i do?

Question

ok i am 15 and my dad and i are always fighting over stupid stuff. but it wouldnt be bothering me as much if it wasnt EVERY NIGHT!!!!!! and i try to please him by doing everything he wants me to do but he still finds sumthin to gripe about. like when i became a cheerleader he didnt say congradulations or anything but he did find sumtin else to gripe about. to make matters worse my mom takes his side and so i get screamed at double. so i am really really mad cuz i am always in trouble for NOTHING!!!! so give me some advise on what to do about this.

Answer 1

sit down and talk to him when you aren't fighting, like now, and tell him exactly what you just said to all of us.

Answer 2

Fifteen is a difficult age when it comes to dealing with parents. I remember when I was that age- for whatever reason, my parents and I just disagreed. It's really hard, because you probably just want to do the right thing and it seems like they're against you.

Here is my advice:

1. Make a list of things of the primary things you are fighting about.
2. Think about all those things individually. Can you bend you compromise on some of those points? Are there some that you feel are completely unreasonable? What are some solutions that would allow you and your parents to meet in the middle?
3. Find a way to communicate this as clear-minded as you can to your parents. Tell them it bothers you that you are fighting with them every night, and ask them what the three of you (you, your mom and your dad) can do to get along better. If you communicate best through writing, write a letter. Can you express your feelings calmly and clearly by talking? Ask your dad if the two of you can go out for ice cream and talk to him about it then.

I hope that you get things all worked out soon!:) Best of luck.

Answer 3

l just read ur story and l must say it is very sad that a girl as young as u should be involved in matters like this with your parents. For me, l believe that anything is possible and that there is no problem without a solution if u just look into the right place. I would advise u talk to ur folks especially ur dad. Do it this way, invite him out for a lunch or a pinic and talk with him without blaming him or trying to exonerate urself from any blame. Just tell him you love him very much and that u want him to love u too just as much. It doesn't matter how he may feel immediately. the truth is that love conquers all. Hug me, embrace him, kiss him, he is your dad and he loves very much, is just that u haven't come 2 realise it. I wish u best of luck with ur dad. Love u

Answer 4

well what to do,
I am an exspert in this area..me and my dad use to fight day in and say out because of the same reason,You just couldnt please them.WEll your dad is your dad and over the years ive learned that some people have a harder time saying there proud of you then they do finding something wrong.Just know that you are doing your best,and your parents love you very much and everytime from here on out when you've honestly done your best and you dad finds that one wrong thing just think of it as he wants the best for you and knows that you can give 100 % ,rather then he thinks you cant do anthing right.Cause you know my dad is gone now and it wasnt until he was gone that i realized how much that negativity can make you thrive!Well I hope my answer helps you!

Answer 5

You should go to your dad and tell him just what you said here. Tell him how much it upsets you and why. Don't concentrate on any of the reasons that you are mad at each other but rather that you would like things to be more peaceful. I don't really know what "stupid stuff" means, but sometimes fifteen can be a difficult age for adults to understand, and likewise you should put yourself in his shoes as much as possible to see why he's upset.

Answer 6

Don't talk back. Silence is the silent killer. Try to do what you can not to have to talk to him as much. Don't be mean but at the same time smile, say OK, then walk away. Make good grades in school so when you turn 18 get the hell out!

Answer 7

When I was at home, I had the same problem with my mum. If you feel you can't talk to your dad, then tell your mother exactly how you feel. Some people just clash, try and find something to keep you busy, when you are at home. I'm 36 now and I still argue with my mum sometimes, but we get over it.

Answer 8

Go to your dad and tell him that you need him to understand more of what is going on in your life. Tell him how you feel about not every being praised by him for anything. Tell him that it appears that he can only see the things he thinks you do wrong, he is not seeing the things that you are doing right.

Answer 9

i noo how you feel this happens alot too me as well but what you have too relise

you don't always know whats happening in your mum and dads lifes it is christmas and problay under alot of stress tooo get things ready

if its still as bad after christmas talk to them and ask them what it is they find rong with you and what it is thats making them shout at you
tell them that you are trying your hardest to please them

and may you can come too compromise in what you do and what they expect from you

as for your mum on his side she has to be there married if she didn't that would cause another row lolz

hope this helps you

xxxxxxxxxxx

Answer 10

omg I am soooo sry
me and my dad are the same way
it seems like the only time we don't fight is when we are in diff places
and i'm 15 too and I jsut try to stay out of his way
but if u wnat to talk
my email is [e-mail]

Answer 11

YOUR A TEENAGER, YOUR GOING TO FIGHT WITH YOUR PARENTS. in a few years you'll have kids of your own and the cycle will start all over again. in the meantime you only have a couple of years till you can move out. deal with it.