Well, he has a mega chrush on me, i fancy him, but we are both way to shy to ask each other out!
So (lets call him 'Gary') 'Gary' gave my mates his adress and phone number, i gave him my phone number too, but we havn't called each other!
I really can't call 'Gary' from the home phone because its in the sitting room and that could be embarrasing!! I've got a mobile, i could go for a walk and talk to him then, but he might not be in!!
AND I REALLY WANNA ASK HIM OUT!!!!!
Help, i'm desperate!
2006-12-22 10:44:03 · 25 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
grow up.
2006-12-22 10:45:35 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 2⤋
Your really focusing on the wrong question. Ask your self why are you being so hesitant? and why the shyness? If you are really true to yourself the answer will have something to do with your own fears. Fear originally had the purpose to protect ones life. It is the most basic part of our brain where everything that happens to us is processed. This primitive brain constantly asks of every new experience: "Am I Safe?" In our modern world where most things are safe from a danger to life point of view we still get held back from fairly harmless experiences because we can't decide if it is safe or not. We fear the unknown. Part of living is about taking risks. Those that don't take risks generally don't experience much life. I'm not saying do life risking activities here. I am say look at the bigger picture. Is it really that dangerous to be less shy?
2006-12-22 20:24:30 · answer #2 · answered by Reflective Frank 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I take it from what you've written that you're only 12 years old. Never mind we all have to start somewhere. If the feeling is mutual then you have nothing to lose. The sooner you ring him the better. Go for a walk and ring him from your moby. I'm sure if he likes you he'll understand if you're a bit nervous. Just ring him, do it now!!! Ask him if he wants to go out or whatever you get upto these days. If he's out, do it again later. Once you've made the first move the rest is a piece of piss. Merry Christmas.
2006-12-22 18:55:45 · answer #3 · answered by Missing Link 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
HEYHEY. I'm going through the same thing. I guess you should take a leap of faith and give him a call on your mobile. If he's not in, just tell whoever answers to tell him to call you. That's what I did..I mean...the person I like and I aren't dating yet but we fancy each other quite alot. And calling him helped. Give it a try. It might take some courage so get some good friends around to encourage you when you do it.....hope this helped a little...
2006-12-22 18:51:15 · answer #4 · answered by Shelley 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
One of you is going to need to make the first move. If you don't your going to regret it.
Have to admit you have got further than me as you even have swapped phone numbers. I think I have waited far too long to ask someone out and was always too shy to say anything for nearly, gasp, 3 years. At times there was mixed messages going back and forward, which made things even worse.
2006-12-22 19:09:02 · answer #5 · answered by mcdonaldshaun 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First of all don't ask him out on the phone. Knock on his door and ask if you two can talk. Go for a walk and ask him then. There you go. Just reameber nothing good comes in life without a little work so go for it and if you get nervous think of how great you'll feel after you ask him out and he says yes. (It's sounds like he wouldn't say no) Make sure you are in priavate so he doensn't get nervous and say no. And don't ask over the phone!!!!!!!
2006-12-22 18:48:34 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
if you are both shy its hard for either of you to make the first move, but if one of you doesnt you may both regret it. try arranging to go out with mutual friends as a grp and make an effort to let him know you feel the same, if all goes well you could suggest going out just the two of you soon, or put a christmas card through his door and tell him it would be nice if you could go out somewhere together soon
2006-12-22 19:49:10 · answer #7 · answered by bex_31 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you have friends in common, perhaps you could get a bunch of people to go to the movies and see if he wants to tag along. That or call him up and tell him that you've had a bad day and was wondering if he was availble to hang out... coffee drinks whatever.
2006-12-22 18:46:41 · answer #8 · answered by bluechick 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well is there anywhere both of you might be. try to get to know him. ask him to do something both of you like. if you to click then you can ask him out again. also if he's not their when you call you could just say hi this is... call me back later. then just casually talk for a little bit. i know it probably sounds award but if you don't make a move what can ya do?
2006-12-22 19:23:52 · answer #9 · answered by linkielock 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
why embarrasing? look just phone if he is out call back just say HI GARY i want you baby take me out or lose me for ever just ask whats the worst he can say NO BIG DEAL dont be shy just ask good luck
2006-12-22 18:54:33 · answer #10 · answered by andrew b 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tell one of your friends to give him a note and note saying that you like him and have the feeling that he likes you too. Also dont call yourself desperate it lowers your selfasteem. Dont be afraid we all have the courage to do something risky. There is nothing to lose just a no..
2006-12-22 18:48:27 · answer #11 · answered by Rachel N 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋