We were discussing where we stand in our relationship and after he told me that he's starting to love me then I freaked a little he said and I quote 'listen you're not the only one who's taking a risk (by dating him exclusively) here so dont act all freaked'..
I didnt tell him that this particular sentence pissed me off but I guess it showed because after saying that he tried to make it sound nicer but it was too late. We talked normally afterwards but I'm still feeling bad about what he said.
2006-12-22 10:40:47 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
He sounds like a mature guy...and he correctly analyzed the situation...that you freaked out...
I wish I could talk to him to advise him to stay away from you because you found that sentence to be that horrible...he has no chance with you if that is so offensive...unless he wants to be your lap dog...Let him know he should dump you...okay?
2006-12-22 10:43:38 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think he was in the right by saying that. It really makes me sad to know that girls get freaked out over love today more than ever. What's so scary about him loving you? It's natural for a guy to fall in love with a girl so don't make him feel bad for god's sake.
2006-12-22 18:44:38 · answer #2 · answered by xxbenchxxmarksxx 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He could have just meant it wasn't just you putting your heart on the line. If it bothered you then talk to him, if you're going to be exclusive then you need to be honest with him. He probably didn't mean it the way you took it, most times guys say stuff and in their heads it sounds one way and when it's said it sounds completely different.
2006-12-22 18:45:58 · answer #3 · answered by Kitikat 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
honey there are risks in all relationships... when he said he loved you, that was a big risk... you exemplified his fears by freaking out... You must have said something while "freaked out" about risks and he just responded... he was probably hurt by the fact that he was revealing his true feelings for you and you didn't reciprocate... Maybe you should think about that.
2006-12-22 18:48:00 · answer #4 · answered by Michael G 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think there's a cut and dry answer to this.
Should you forgive him for saying this? It sounds like you think he did wrong by saying what he did. The question you might ask is if him saying it did more damage than him not saying it.
It also sounds like both of you are scared of losing each other. My amateur advice is that you need to sit down and talk about it. I think your questions will be answered then.
2006-12-22 18:48:22 · answer #5 · answered by Michael Goodfellow 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you like him? if so say it and make him feel at ease. Don't second guess the relationship because of one sentence. Moving a relationship to the next level is intimidating.
2006-12-22 18:45:00 · answer #6 · answered by bluechick 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't understand what you feel bad about. He was telling you something honest--all relationships involve a degree of risk. He admitted he loves you and it putting his heart on line.
Instead of being happy about being told that he loves you, you are obsessing about something that seems to me, you've taken out of context.
Hope that helps. Good luck.
--Bob
2006-12-22 18:46:36 · answer #7 · answered by Robert E 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
REALLY? Come on now, you freak out and it makes you look stupid... come on now you cant get mad at him for something so simple or discouraged....It sounds like you need to dump him cause you seem have not a clue what love is and maybe your too young for it..
2006-12-22 18:44:03 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He might not have meant it to sound that mean, but if it makes you feel bad you should say something. If he tried to make it sound better then he probably feels bad.
2006-12-22 18:44:30 · answer #9 · answered by Rach 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well maybe you did take it the wrong way for a guy to tell you he loves you first is a big step for mankind just forgive for the misstatement i know that aint a word and let it go
2006-12-22 18:44:00 · answer #10 · answered by toofavorable 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋