Im a bloke. Im not bad looking, I dont think. Ive got an ok job. A good sense of humour (ladies, is that really as important as everyone says it is?) The frustration is driving me insane. Seriously. Ive stopped drinking as my bitterness always gets the better of me, and I say stupid things. A large of me of me wants a relationship with someone special, someone who will love me for who I am, flaws and all. But another part of me just wants to have sex. It's a massive crutch I cant get over. I can't see myself as a man, I have serious self esteem problems. It's not a matter of just ticking a box. But I need to do this before I go completely crazy. So what should I do? Put out a personal ad: "Ladies, Im desperate and have very low standards"? Any advice?
2006-12-22 10:28:08 · 20 answers · asked by johnnybegood72us 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
just wait until you're with a decent girl and wait for it to happen. it will happen when it happens. don't get desperate. women hate desperate guys.
2006-12-22 10:30:46 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
There are a few things to work out here, so I am going to submit a questionnaire and please answer truthfully:
1. Are you in fact homosexual?
2a. Can your p3n1s be seen with the naked eye?
2b. If the answer to 2a is an affirmative, are you perhaps impotent?
2c. If the answer to 2b is a negative, can you last longer than it takes to boil a kettle?
3. Do you look like Quasimodo would after a car accident?
4. Have you actually been taught what to do, where it goes, etc?
5. If you are troubling over question 4, then answer this one instead: Do you know the difference between men and women?
6. Do you live in a) Your parents house. b) A rented one bedroom flat in a tower block that you share with three roomies or c) A cardboard box?
Assuming a satisfactory completion of this form and an appropriate consultancy fee, I will advise you further how to be a walking Adonis, a testosterone fuelled God, a homing beacon for vaginas everywhere... like my humble self. Good luck my fornication frustrated friend!
P.S.
Not wanting to embarrass you further, but I couldn't help but notice that you are called Johnnybegood72. That wouldn't perchance be in reference to a birth date of 1972?? If so then you need help with your arithmatic as well as your girl humping and because of the lying and extra decade worth of inexperience, I'm afraid my fee will be increased accordingly!!! ;-)
2006-12-22 10:45:38 · answer #2 · answered by Oliver T 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Okay, actually lots of people are well into their 20's before losing virginity. But the frustration can be so intense for us guys. There is a reason why there are so many escort services in any city. Getting an escort really might be the right thing for you, if the sexual frustration is starting to warp your overall mood and outlook on life.
2006-12-22 10:33:00 · answer #3 · answered by Julian A 4 · 2⤊ 1⤋
being a male and a virgin does not make you any less of a man...in fact it seems to me that it means you're a moral man who is not swayed by what the popular trend is ...that of having indiscriminate sex with anybody, anywhere. i think its great you haven't gone with just anyone and are waiting for the right person...don't fall victim to the crap ppl say, they do that because they are either jealous, mean or simply don't understand. also don't just 'do it' to 'do it' if you know what i mean, you sound like the type of person who would not like themselves very much for that. also i wonder could your drinking have been an issue? just asking...but you sound normal and probably could have lost your virginity years ago...it just seems you've got a higher sense of morals than most ppl. to prove that point just look around you...some awfully ugly ppl who have no money, no job and are total idiots have sex and have kids...but you aren't one of those, you are better than that. so really, just be yourself and don't judge yourself by what others are doing or saying...walk your own path.
2006-12-22 10:34:54 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
i am so proud of you. you sound like you have a good head on your shoulders. 24 isn't the end of the world. you could be 24 with aids. 24 with 3 kids to support with an overweight overbearing wife. look on the bright side. you are soooo lucky. so what if the girls don't get you right now. by the way, a sense of humor is key. be yourself, i'm somewhat of a b****. but my husband loves it. he thinks my sarcastic, self righteousness is also funny! and that is what i wanted. i was put on this earth to entertain. and i do every minute of every day. you sound like a winner. keep your head up. be very very proud. you are not crazy. you are one of the few sane.
2006-12-22 16:18:06 · answer #5 · answered by REALLY 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
The real question is why have you waited this long before even considering to have sex???? Dude your like 24 years old, go to a club/ bar or a street corner and get you some punani!
2006-12-22 10:44:50 · answer #6 · answered by afrprince77 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Be proud of yourself that your not a male whore who sleeps around and don't be in such a hurry to give it away. It is the most precious gift you can never get back. Wait until you have found the women you are going to spend the rest of your life with before you have sex.
2006-12-22 10:31:16 · answer #7 · answered by Sally B 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Dont worry about being an virgine, there is no problem with that , dont stress about it , i belvie its a good thing ur a virgine and all this time you waited will pay off, trust me. well if you are really despreat , you can give hints to guys and also try to get a boyfreind and then do it lol. Good luck
2006-12-22 10:31:09 · answer #8 · answered by Boss 6 · 2⤊ 1⤋
It may be a good idea to have a few therapy sessions to talk about why your self esteem is so low. You probably have a lot to offer, but don't know how to deliver it. With self esteem, it will all come together. Therapy helps.
2006-12-22 10:32:27 · answer #9 · answered by Oh Wise One 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
don't think like that...don't you want it special the first time? i mean maybe i'll get thumbs down for this and i don't care...i have gone through so much **** man...i mean sh*t....you don't sound like you have self esteem problems b/c you praise yourself sooo much. if you want to get laid, just be yourself..if it happens it does but please respect women! someone should love you as you are. i hope you find the "one"
2006-12-22 10:32:43 · answer #10 · answered by kowalley 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋