I love my sister but...?

Question

Whenever my family gets together my sister starts to bring up stuff that embarasses me. I must admit I was sort of a brat as a child, but no more so than most normal kids; we didn't get along very well as kids. She always brings up things that I did when I was like 12 years old (or even younger!!!) and we are in our 20's now! She brings up things in front of family and friends that either make me look like a bad person or embarass me (or both). I don't understand why she would want to do this...how can I get her to stop this without getting into an argument with her? I have brought it up to her in the past but she just says that I am freaking out about nothing...I guess I feel like she is being sort of passive-aggressive. Why would she want to make me look bad in front of others? We get along really well now that we're adults, but when we spend too much time around each other (like we will be this week for Christmas!) this is when her behavior starts. How can I deal with this?

Although the "get her back!!!" answers are funny, I don't want anything that would provoke her or start a fight! Thanks

Answer 1

Think of the most embarrasing event in her childhood and relate it to all present, see how she likes a dose of her own medicine!;

Answer 2

It sounds like your sister has low self esteem and wants to hurt other people to make herself feel better. I'd try to talk to her again and stress to her that you are completely uncomfortable and try to get to the root of why she feels the need to do this. Again, I think it might be her low self esteem and often people don't recognize this in themselves.

If she continues, I would say it's an eye for an eye and try once or twice to put her in her place by doing to her what she does to you. If it doesn't work after two tries, I'd stop it because it clearly isn't working and would be more damaging than good to continue. I am talking about some well-placed zingers that you know would bother her, but make it very subtle.

I'd then talk to someone else in your family and have them talk to her. Good luck to you.

Answer 3

ignore her my sisters and i are the same way but if you ignore her and dont feed her meaning dont say anything when she starts to talk that stuff and then when everybody is gone tell her what you think about her she will get the picture and then again we get along good when we dont be around each other alot and now we all live in the same town just MILES apart the telephone works good and so does caller id think about it

Answer 4

Think of the most embarassing thing she has ever done. Then when she says anything about you then you can say something that she did.

Answer 5

i can relate. both my sisters talk about how bad i dressed as a child and how "snobby" i was. how can you be snobby if you only own 2 pairs of socks. i really think its jealousy. esp one of my sisters. that is my answer for you. jealousy. getting even: no, don't do that. that would only bring more crap. maybe one day they will get tired of their own lame stories. ha!!

Answer 6

just remember 2 can play the same game try to talk to her first and if she don't listen give her a dose of her own medicane

Answer 7

I would tell her that we need to talk and let her know that it bothers you and you'd appreciate it if she doesn't do it any more. If she loves you and respects you, she'll understand. She might be jealous of you and is trying to embarrass you on purpose.

Answer 8

maybe try to talk to her and if that dont work then try doing it back to her and see how she likes it.