Should I give it all up????

Question

Ok I was in a relationship 1 and 1/2 years ago and it all ended with her admitting she never loved me. Ever since I have been single, not even one date. I go to school and always seem to get rejected or just lead on, girl seems interested, gives me her number, says to call her, than never answers her phone. I am very polite but still don't let people walk over me, I dress right, clean cut, go to church and so on. Love just seems to ignore me for some reason and seems to go in favor of other people instead. It got to the point where I get very down because I am alone and frustrated with seeing all of my friends with people. I hate hearing people say I am handsome and attractive because it doesn't seem to be true if I am still single. I feel like swearing of dating forever. I am tired of let love find you answers, because it feels like I am waiting for a train that won't come or waiting for something to happen that won't. Am I just overreacting?

Answer 1

The train will come when you least expect it to. Keep your boarding pass that way when some girl says all aboard you'll be ready!

Answer 2

I know what you mean but if you give up on love then your going to feel alone the rest of your life. Is that what you want? I hear the same things all the time, your beautiful-sweat-caring, any guy would be lucky to have you... But there are no takers... But you cant give up, because the day will come when you will meet the person that is ment for you. And the more you look for love, the less likely you are to find it. Let love find its way to you, because if your looking, your probably looking in all the wrong places. You should just concentrate on you life as it is now, hang out with friends, enjoy time with your family and dedicate time for yourself. Soon you wont feel lonely, and you wont think that life is cheating you from something.

Maybe God wants us to meet a few wrong people so that when we meet the right one, we will know it.....

Answer 3

im really sorry about that girl leaving you like that. i know it must have been hard. if it makes u feel any better, im in the same position as you. ive had one serious boyfriend my whole life and i havent had another since then. its been 3 years since then also. my friends are almost always with someone, maybe not long relationships but there is always someone out there that likes them and tells them. But this stuff never happens to me. and i cant help but wonder why? and i know you are feeling the same way right? see theres nothing wrong with us, not our looks not how we act. [now this might sound cheezy but....] there is someone out there for everyone. we might not find them today, or tommrow or a year from now. it could be awhile. but we just have to keep looking forward to that, and keep being social around other people. and one day, someone will see the true side to you and will love you for who you are. but dont ever put yourself down because you dont have a girl with you. you will find her someday just always keep oppurtunities open and keep hope in your self, thats the best you can do. hope this helps.
-erika

Answer 4

Yes, you are :)

Don't give up. Live your life, do what makes you happy, and when the time is right it will happen for you.

I've been where you are, and I know that is a very frustrating answer! But the truth is, that's all you can do.

Answer 5

Trust me- you ae totally blowing this out of proportion. You may not be getting dates. You may not have had a single person interested in you. But- you know what?- that doesn't matter. There are people who go through their lives giving up on love, and sometimes they tend to end up as old hermits seeking no companionship, not even from a Chihuahua named Skippy Persevious Hobglobbin III.

I'm not saying that everyone who gives up on this ends up like this; everyone handles these situations differently. I too have had high hopes met with bitter rejection, but do you want to know something? I moved on with my life. As the old poem goes, "Nothing Gold Can Stay". Love, being the gold in this, may leave, but, like the new spring leaves and flowers, it comes back and blossoms greatly.

What I'm trying to say with all of these metaphors and all that yadda yadda yadda I mentioned is that you cannot be stuck on something like this for too long. I'm speaking from experience; I've dwelled on things like this before as well. To be completely honest, I have NEVER been on a date. (Of course, I'm still young.) And while my friends and alumni are dating, I don't get envious or jealous. Young love and/or crushes don't last forever (unless you get married to someone you've known your whole life like in some movies). You said you're still in school? You are young. You've got your whole life to meet that "oh-so-special someone". Think about that.

It was once said by someone that your first love remains in your heart forever. Well, as for the person who said that: That person is an idiot and a genius. First, the idiot explanation: People move on from first-love-heartbreak. It's not like someone cannot survive without their first love/crush/date/rutabega/you-get-the-point in existence. But, as per the genius description, you must never forget your first encounter with romance: How you felt. How you acted. How the person was. Most importantly, you must remember how you moved on. Don't be like that woman who entered the convent just because she was giving up on men. Running away from a problem (i.e.: love)never solves anything.

To answer "Am I just overreacting?" yes you are. One day, you'll meet a girl who likes you who you like back, and you'll know you've found the right person. Don't be discouraged if you don't meet anyone in a long time; the only time anyone ever "liked" me was in first grade (and idiotic me tried to keep as far away as possible from her! I guess it's just one of those dumb decisions people make when they are too infantile to understand these things, like I was!). As seasons, new fads, and loads of new technology come, your train will take a visit to [your-name-here]town before you know it. But as for now, just follow this song:
"You know you gotta keep it strong
Move along, move along
Like I know you could.
And even when your hope is gone
Move along, move along
Like I know you do. (Move along...)"

Remember: Love is like an onion: The more you peel it, the more it stinks. And by getting yourself down, you are just an onion-peeling factory. So metaphorically speaking: STOP PEELING THE ONION. Literally speaking: DO NOT DISCOURAGE YOURSELF. YOUR TRAIN WILL COME SOON ENOUGH.

And one day, you will say to a girl: "Will you marry me?" And do you know one day in your future what that girl will say?
"I do."

Belive in yourself. Believe in love. For goodness sake, believe that you will one day meet someone. You WILL find love...