had went on a trip to see my sick in health grandmother in the midwest traveling from San Francisco to St.Louis.And when I arrived there, my aunt called me to let me know she wouldn't be able to pick me up,and she told me to catch the bus, closer to the town, then when I got there, some of my cousins were there and they just looked,keep in mind I hadn't seen any of these people in thirthteen years, supposedly they were upset at the fact that I never visited them, and they were upset at the fact that I waited until my grandmother was on her deathbed, so everyone was sort of upset at me, for that reason, then I left which was bad because my grandmother was dying and I should have stayed by her side, and then my family was even more upset at me calling me bitches, and to never contact them again.My aunt who was supposed to pick me up, kept saying you think you a celebrity, you think you all that.And I'm like damn, they really dislike me for not coming back to visit,How do I deal with t
2006-12-22 09:55:55 · 7 answers · asked by Taylor 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Apologize to all of them and than try to rebuild your relationship to them.
2006-12-22 09:59:54 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You apparently have a life of your own which your family members never had. Keep on with your life and your family will eventually come around and apologize. Maybe at the time you should have sucked up your pride and stood by your grandmothers side but only you know what was best. If you had to leave to avoid the conflicts that your family was putting you through than you made the right decision. I could careless what my family says about me their jealous because their stuck in lonely-town and you live in lively-hood. My prayers go out to you and you family.
2006-12-22 18:03:28 · answer #2 · answered by mudda 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You made the effort. I can understand how you must have felt. I can also understand why you probably never wanted to be around them. Just be thankful that you did get to see you Grandmother, I know it meant a lot to her. Sometime people like them likes to have some reason to blame some one else for their own stupid life. I respect you for going. You apparently do have another life, go own with it. You done what you needed to do to honor your Grandmother, the heck with the rest of them.
2006-12-22 18:02:49 · answer #3 · answered by m c 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No one should call you the b-word! You shouldnt have left and have said sorry to your relatives and explain why you havent contacted them in 13 years.. Even if the reason is "I'm an Idiot."!
and Your Family shouldnt be so harsh on you! tell them it was stupid of me to leave and you still dont have the right to call me the b-word and i was very uncomfortable with the sitituation i was In. =D Hope every thing works out! Happy holidays =D
2006-12-22 18:00:33 · answer #4 · answered by ♦Its•Possible•But•Not•Logical♦ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell them you are so sorry for them. for they are the losers. maybe you are in will and they are selfish,and greedy? you did the right thing to go visit granny, and then leave the others to live in their own misery. sounds like they have problems and issues of their own. don't let anyone make their problems and issues yours. what ever was wrong, was wrong before you came around, so let them keep it with themselves.
2006-12-22 18:26:43 · answer #5 · answered by waljac6108 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it sounds like you were being kind of selfish for not being there and for your family to point that out to you is certainty OK!
2006-12-22 18:15:52 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
agree with them - apologize - be there now - show support - be nice and quiet
2006-12-22 17:57:33 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋