Should I tell him ?

Question

I got my best friend a christmas present over the internet. But it won't get here until next week because of the huge rush.

Before I go any further you should know that I am in love with him and have been for 4 years.

I don't want to buy his love or tell him how I feel and risk our friendship. But at the same time I want to tell him how much he means to me and that I don't know what I would do without him.

How do I tell him that without screeming I am in love with you? !

And should I tell him that I got him something or wait and surprise him next week ?

I don't know what to do can you help me ?

Answer 1

First off, don't tell him about the gift because it is after all a Christmas gift, usally a gift is a suprise, LOL!!!! But if you really and truly have feelings for this person as strong as you say you do, then don't spill it all a once, sometimes feelings this strong can be intimidating to someone and too much to handle at once, but u can give what i call "Preparation Signals", if you haven't already given them out, they're simply little signals to show someone you really care about how much you care about them until u finally say it.......like you could do little things that you wouldn't normally do for that person, it may even be something so unusual that it would be a big deal to you and that person, but make it seem as though its something little...what signals to give out, that i couldn't tell you because everyone is different....but trust and believe once you've made that person feel even more special than usual, it will be easier to break the news but only there won't be that much news to break because they've by now caught on a little bit and it will be much easier for them. But of course if you have noticed uneasiness from this person than that simply means the feelings you have for them will definitely be one-sided because its not what they want, and remember some of our friends are only meant to be just our friends, no matter how deep our love for them goes, if its meant to be it will be, but if not accept it and move on, because in all actuality you will have no other choice but to move on......and just tell him the gift may be a little late but its definitely worth the wait, and if it makes u feel better, you can tell him you'd rather not exchange gifts until his comes, so you can do it together!!!! ENJOY YOUR HOLIDAY TO THE FULLEST(NO MATTER WHAT HAPPENS)!!!!!!

Answer 2

I totally feel your dilemma! I really like my friend too...so I can understand you not sure of what to do. The only difference is that my friend lives far away..over the ocean. Not knowing the exact situation between you two, I don't want to give you the wrong advice. And its always easier said then done. But if you love that person I would tell him how you feel! If these feelings are just dying to get out, maybe its time to share them with this special someone you care about and love so much. What I would do, since the x-mas gift is not here yet is wait and surprise him with the gift! That is more fun. Or also if you can't wait till next week, you could just get him a little something right now and give it to him for X-mas...and make a little note in a card that the big gift is on its way! Be creative!!! hehe! :) So if you decide to tell him your feelings for him I would approach by telling him that you really appreciate his friendship and that these last four years have been great! Be honet with him and tell him how hard its been because you have stronger feelings for him, more than friendship. Like I said, its always easier said then done. But nothing will make this easy!!! So you might as well be honest and true about it as much as you can. I wish you the best of luck and I hope you have a very merry Christmas. And Hopefully by new years you may just have someone to kiss at midnight!!! xxx



Note: Best Beauty! Very good advice!!!! : ) I think that would be a very good first step for him or for anyone to take if they like someone.

Answer 3

Find a picture of what you got him and put it in a card. Or print a picture off and write your own note on it. Or, there is always email. As they say, a picture is worth a thousand words, and most of us are quite visual. Good Luck

Answer 4

Tell him over the past 4 yrs your friendship has grown and you can see yourself with him

Answer 5

tell him that you like him more then a friend and see where that gets you, and I agree with the pic in card of the gift

Answer 6

shyly bring the topic up
accidently say it
hear him say it first so you wont be nervous
give him a kiss