DO you think you could go the rest of your life without ever having actual sex ever again?

Question

this is not for the meek. i'm 35 and my wife is 32. five years ago, i was in a bus accident that left me disable - including substantial loss of use of my genitals. my wife has stuck with me, and been ever caring. she is actually inspring.

now, i've learned many ways to get her off - but, correct me if i'm wrong - having sex itself is pretty important to a woman. or at least to my wife.

i've been thinking about letting her have sex with somebody else. she'd never directly but i she's human and i can tell she wants to badly. i feel like its the right thing to do.

i don't worry that she'd leave me for another. i know in my heart she wouldn't leave me out to dry. but is this the right thing? could i cope with such a decision? how do i get through the night when she is out? how do i deal with her when she comes back. i want to let her - and i'm almost there - i almost have all of my issues work out - but give me any tips if you have them.

Answer 1

well..I don't really know what to tell you about this situation..except..could you really live with yourself after knowing that your wife slept with another man? Sex is something special that only you two should share..its like your love being put into a physical form. There is no way a woman can sleep with a man without giving a 'part of herself' to him, thats just not the way it is.

It may be a need of hers..but letting her sleep with another man is far from the solution..it'll just complicate things further..and whether you realize it or not..I just don't think any man who is in love with his wife would be able to happily do this.

You say it's for her benefit..but if you're not happy after this happens, and if she really loves you like you say she does, do you really think she will be happy?

If it were me..I think I would be a little disappointed if my man asked me that. I realize the good intent..but I have never had the desire to be with anyone other than him..and if he were unable to, I could live with that..I could NOT, however, live with sleeping with someone else.

I really hope I was able to help a little..please think this through completely, I wish you the best in everything --

Answer 2

I know that it may not be the same thing as the actual guy but I have talked this over with my husband and we have both came to the conclusion that we wouldn't do it with anyone else. I would feel so guilty if I did and vise-versa. Have you tried to lay with her and even on her a little while using a toy, or your finger(s). Just the closeness alone may help. I would rather use a toy then to get an STD. But then again hell, I do use a toy and with my husband. sorry people I can't help myself when I talk about sex. OK, anyways. Talk to her about how to fulfill her more. If she needs to be fulfilled more? Don't go to extremes unless you think she is going to leave you for someone that can use his.

Answer 3

Hey! Are you crazy ? your wife is your wife,you can't share her with someone else,you'll regret it the rest of your life.Look.....sex is very important,but there must be some other way.Why don't you look for professional help,both of you.If she loves you,she'll stay,don't rush into things you'll be sorry after.

Answer 4

you dont even know that she wants to... maybe you should discuss this w/ her... She may be insulted by you making this decision for her... Or your questioning her loyalty to you... + once she's out there she may eventually meet someone and not come back... no matter how strongly she feels for you...

Answer 5

A very unselfish act on your part.Maybe you offer and she will refuse.Keep the tongue a goin.Love conquers all.

Answer 6

I do not know what to say. Would you be comfortable watching? That may help, but I don't know! Do some praying!!

Answer 7

you ain`t met my mrs

Answer 8

how many times are you asking this question.....