what is so wrong with me that i can't get a boyfriend?

Question

im 19 years old, and i haven't even gone on one date since i was in the 12th grade or since i graduated high school. that was two years ago. last time i really had a boyfriend was in the 9th grade. im not ugly or anything. i am a very shy person. it was a lot easier dating in high school than it is now because there were so many boys at my high school. but I go to a vocational school and the majority of the people there are girls. there's only like three guys and they're all gay. I go with my friends to places and hang out, and usually there are a lot of guys there, but usually, they look but they don't approach. I'm not going up to them and start talking becuase i'm affraid of rejection. what should i do?? I wan't to date or maybe even get a boyfriend, but i just forgot how. what am i doing wrong??

Answer 1

Hey hope your not alone in your quest. I agree with angel take the chance to say Hi. The one thing I see from your writing is the fact that you go out with your girlfriends, that can intimidate the opposite persuasion as the guy tends to not want to be rejected in front of your peers. Remember this is not high school and people don't know you by reputation, so it is important to put yourself out there. My personal experience as a 18yr old out of high school in a club at Tempe AZ. I asked a nice looking girl to dance, to which she sneered at me and said no very rudely. All her friends and mine died laughing at me, but I put myself out there. I casually looked back at her before I sat down at my table right next to hers and said politely over the loud music "NO I SAID YOU LOOK FAT IN THOSE PANTS!!". Alright it was rude but her friend who was taller and a bit heavier asked if would like to dance, this after she wiped the tears out of eyes from laughing. Of course I said yes and had a great time. Have fun, relax and remember saying "Hi" is easier time after time, also helps so you won't be shy.

Answer 2

One thing you are not doing is to look at your situation in a positive light. remember, you have a lot to give and you are a lovely young lady with feelings and compassion and kindness and gentleness and caring attitude so don't put yourself down so much. Don't go around thinking you have nothing to give anyone or that something is wrong with you. If you are interested in someone then start talking to him and be friendly with him and let him know you like him. Ask him what he likes to do for fun and what his interests may be. Tell him how good he looks when he wears certain clothes. Compliment him when you can. Smile at the guys you like and let them know in that way you are interested in them. Do the little things to get noticed and frequent the places where you know you will find guys like the Library, Student Center, Sports facilities like tennis courts, soccer fields, baseball fields, football fields, etc. Use your imagination and be creative. Be confident in your own abilities. Have fun and be yourself above all else.

Answer 3

What else do you do except go to school? Do you have a job? Do you go to the library to study? Do you have a hobby? Try volunteering at a local community center or hospital where you can meet people. Don't just jump into the arms of the first guy who talks to you. Don't give up vagina right away. Take your time and get to know him. Avoid meeting someone online at all costs! Make sure this guy respects you. The best way he'll know is by showing that you respect yourself.

Answer 4

I'm shy 2! Don't feel bad. I think what u should do is try 2 b a little more outgoing, and make the guy notice you! If that doesn't work, try 2 find a guy that is shy, like u! There is always some1 out there 4 u!

Answer 5

You need to find a different way to display your shyness. being shy could hinder you from getting a date b/c it may not come across as being shy...it may come across as not being interest in the guy. so when a guy look at you, don't turn away. look him in the eyes. speak to him, say hi how are you or comment on the atmosphere...that open things up for a conversation! you'll be surprise what just speaking will do. don't worry hun you still have time. *wink*

Answer 6

ur not doin anything worng. Like u said ur a shy person.
If u want a boyfriend u have to change ur style and be glamorous!
You have to have a good body language and sure if u get rejected it doesn't really matter. It was just one dumb guy. there are other fishes in the sea.

Answer 7

You're going to have to step up and approach those guys where you hang out at. Yes, they might reject you and I can understand why you fear that - but they're afraid of the same thing, and that's why they won't come up to you. so you've got to break the ice.

Answer 8

ure a shy person n thing but its a gud ting not to approach a guy first i would just have to say wait until a guy comes along and ask you on a date

Answer 9

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Answer 10

Hope

Next time a guy is smiling is at you go and say Hi to him you need to take a chance and just go for it