How do I get over him?

Question

My boyfriend of 3 months dumped me 2 weeks ago, and he was my first boyfriend and it really hurt. He was upset about it too at the time, but has been going out wihth his mates loads, so I think he's over it. My trouble is that I dream about him every night, and I really wish we were still together. We've stayed in touch on instant messenger, but chatting just reminds me what a great bloke he is and how good he made me feel.

I don't know I loved him, but I cared for him very much. How can I get past this and just be friends with him?

Answer 1

You simply move on!! Remember him but remember you too and find something else beleive me it should only take a couple weeks if u were only together 3mo!!!!

Answer 2

I've been through this, but instead of 3 months, we dated for 5 years! You have to make sure you're not tempted to think about him all the time... so you should probably stop messaging him, as hard as it may be. You might be telling yourself that you want to stay friends with him, but if you still have even the slightest feelings for him, it's likely that you're just hoping that if you leave the door open, you'll hook up with him again later... don't put yourself through that. If you go long enough without talking or hanging out with him, you'll get over him... then maybe you can be friends later. Good luck, I know how you feel!

Answer 3

It's going to be very hard. I can't lie to you and tell you it's going to be easy because it isn't. If it's meant to be, he'll come back. But if not then just let it go. It just means that there are bigger and better things for you out there. If you have any hobbies at all now is the time to get fully into them. Doing something else that uses your mind, such as reading and writing, will really take your mind off of him. Don't sit at home and cry about it, go out and have fun, just do anything to take your mind off of him. As for your dreams, well you can't really stop those. But little by little depending on what you do during the day (don't spend all day thinking about them) they'll start to go away and soon enough you'll be able to look at him as just a friend. You won't forget those moments together, but those feelings will be gone.

Answer 4

Time heals all wounds. Right now, you're feeling the emotions because your unfortunate breakup just recently happened. Now it's time for the healing. Get involved in some activities that you enjoy to take your mind off of him, such as going to the spa, coffeehouse, take in a movie, or any other type of acitivity you might enjoy. Hang out with YOUR female friends and have a girls night out, since he is hanging with his friends.

Also, if you still have feelings for him, and you still IM him a lot, then I would hold back on talking to him for a while, to let things sink in. Then later, if things work out that you two would be together again, then it just might happen. Good luck!

Answer 5

The best thing to do, in my opinion, would be to stop talking to him altogether. That would be the fastest way to get over him. Trying to remain friends with an ex never really works out very well anyway. Besides, the fact that you are still friends with your ex could potentially have negative affects on your future relationships as well. Trust me, I've tried it. The whole being friends with your ex thing only causes trouble. Plus, if you miss him so bad, then it will only make you more sad.

Answer 6

You probably won't be able to be friends with him for a while. By the time you are emotionally ready for a "friendship" with him, you will probably have met someone else and moved on and won't care so much about being his friend.

You need to stop all contact with him, otherwise you will remain in the cycle of thinking about him, regretting the break-up, or whatever. So stop texting him, emailing him, talking to him, and being in contact. If he contacts you and wants to know why you are incommunicado, be honest. Tell him you think it's best that the two of you not have contact for a while. Tell him you will contact him when you are ready.

Stay involved in activities, keep busy, and be open to the possibility of meeting new people.

Like I said, by the time you are "ready" to be friends, you will probably have moved on and won't care too much about it. Being friends immediately after a break-up usually never works.

Answer 7

The easiest way would be to talk to him about it. if you know the why of the situation ,perhaps you can start to put it behind you. I'm sure you've heard the old saying"time heals all wounds". This si a very true saying.Given the right amount of time ,your life will be back to normal,and your thoughts will be taken up with other more important things.

Answer 8

try 2 keep urself busy and instead of thinking about the good times think of the bad times it will help u relize u dont want him anymore, but dont go and try 2 get another bf juss 2 get over him cuz it wont be the same. oh and dont listen 2 sad songs that remind u of him believe me me n my bf of a year broke up a month ago n i'm still not fully over him but im gettin better i dont think of him as much unless i'm by myslef in the quiet, good luck

Answer 9

Right now you can't "just be friends" with him unfortunately. The best way to get over him is to get out there with your mates and try to occupy your mind with other things. Get a puppy. Not only will it occupy your mind they are dude magnets. Keep in mind eventually you may be able to be "just friends" at some point in time but that time is a looong ways a way

Answer 10

Hang in there as time heals all wounds. Get on with your life and within a short peroid of time you will have trouble remembering his name. Get on with your life. With no disrespect you should experience a few more boyfriends(you can dump them if you want), then you will be able to judge a really good one from a bad one.

Answer 11

I hate to say it but its much harder to get over someone if your trying to stay friends. Its much better to leave them out of your life and learn to live by yourself again. The dreams will pass. i split up with my girlfriend of six years 5 months ago and I still dream of her occasionally. However as time goes by this is happening less and less.

You've got to learn to feel good about yourself without him. Its difficult but only when you no longer miss him and want him is when you'll be ready to be friends again. The trick is to keep busy with a new hobby and spending time with your family and friends.