I've been dating this guy for 2 months now, and he told me that he liked me and he knows i like him, we are very confortable around each other. I'm latin... on our second date we went to a latin club, and he didn't know how to dance at the beggining but h learned quick... (i'm a dance instructor, salsa, merengue, bachata, etc) so we had fun that day...
a few days ago i told him that I wanted to go to a party or something, and but turns out, we haven't ben able. The thing is that I said Would u take me to a party with u? (it was more or less that exact same words). And he said (kind of joking) u don't bring sand to the beach...
Meaning, that there were a lot of girls at every party, and he didn't have to bring another one (me).
Why did he do that? Is that normal? am I supposed to be angry?
2006-12-22 09:16:18 · 15 answers · asked by Latina Hottie! W.Chocolate 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I would be. Why would he care about any other girl there if he's with you? That is so mean. I know I would be so upset. I'm mad just thinking about it.
2006-12-22 09:33:39 · answer #1 · answered by sweethot 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just because you have been dating and you like each other doesn't mean there is a commitment there. So far from what you have said I gather he has made no commitment to you. He said what he did because he could very well wind up with another girl on his arm by the end of the night...in otherwords you're not the only name in his "little black book". Since he obviously has made no commitment to you there is no reason for you to be angry.
2006-12-22 17:21:54 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I find it hard to see why you aren't angry. He did that because he obviously thinks he a playa. It's only normal to users and abusers or single men. Maybe you should either understand that he doesn't see you the same way you see him, White Chocolate. Obviously he either sent out false signals or you saw what you wanted to see. Be thankful that you see the true light now so you can dance your way in to someone elses heart that deserves you and wants you. As long as you don't have wrinkles or too much cellulite your chances are still good girly.
2006-12-22 17:32:20 · answer #3 · answered by MeHurdu 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well i had this bf and he wasnt into goin "partying" cos he told me "whn u r single you go out to hook up with chicks, when u r in a relationship whats the point of going just the 2 of us..you r with a girl and happy, dont need anything else.." maybe he meant the same thing..maybe the parties he knows or went to befor you guys got together were more singles ones.. i still think theres no excuse..organise it with some more friends and go out all together..when u r at the place you 2 go your own way..hope it turns out well
2006-12-22 17:27:50 · answer #4 · answered by molokogirl 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well boys are like that, if they see prettier girls or girls that are willing to go farther they will take that chance. If I was in your place i would have probably dump you cause this would lead me to think does he chat on me? well i don't really know details about your situation, but to me it sounds like he is a player and he just wants something from girls <3 good luck
2006-12-22 17:19:49 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
What your dealing with is a guy who has trouble committing to a relationship. He feels "tied down" to you and wants to be free to play the field. My Advice would be to let him go and put time into finding a dance partner who only has eyes for you!
2006-12-22 17:20:18 · answer #6 · answered by mopjky 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes u have the right to be angry.. he is behaving like a jerk. Tell him that u don't appreciate how he spoke to you and that you would like to know why was he behaving rude. If u don't get a clear honest answer say goodbye to his sorry ***. I'm sure u don't wanna be disrespected. Good luck
2006-12-22 17:22:01 · answer #7 · answered by julia1975 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hes your boyfriend of 2 months but he wont take you to the party? Is he also going to the party?...
If he is going to the party, but wont take you...i'd be angry. I'd be very angry if my boyfriend said that to me.
If he isnt going to the party at all, i wouldnt get too angry. Maybe he just doesnt want to party.
He knows you guys are dating right??...Maybe hes confused.
2006-12-22 17:19:33 · answer #8 · answered by ? 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He means that you have only been dating for 2 months and he isn't ready to go out and act like you are a couple when you are not.
2006-12-22 17:20:43 · answer #9 · answered by 3 Card 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well.....Not every guy does that...He is just a jerk...I'm really sorry...but that is just jerky of that jerk. You like this guy? Well...You put it out of your head, because he is not nice at all.
It's just a party you know, he should have just taken you, but instead you goes saying you are not bringing anything!
Well...I'm sorry for you..... But not every guy is like that!
Sorry.
2006-12-22 17:27:44 · answer #10 · answered by DeeDee 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋