my mother in law and father in law have been staying with us since Oct 2006 to help my brother in law. The living situation is becoming uncomfortable because we live in a very small house there is always conflicts about using the restroom, taking showers etc. My son is feeling very uncomfortable and so am I. My in-laws expect for me to do everything housework, cook, etc and work outside the home. There is even fights over a bag of chips I gave my son some chips and my father in law got mad because they were his chips. Me and my husband pay all the bills and buy groceries and share everything with them so this really hurt my feelings and made me angry. Pls help
2006-12-22 09:10:41 · 12 answers · asked by angelina o 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
I think the thing that you need to do is sit down with your husband and discuss a few things and sit a few ground rules, then have a family discussion with the in-laws. If your husband does not or can not see the issues at hand then it may be time for you to take your son and find another place to live.
2006-12-22 09:18:09 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Before your in laws moved things should have been discussed. They need to respect your household. Your husband needs to sit down and talk to his parents with you present. They are taking advantage of you and the situation at hand.I am sure they know your blow up was over more than a bag of chips.You didn't say why they were living in the household but to invade a family with a small home lets me know they were having money problems. It has only been a few months so hopefully they will not be there much longer.
2006-12-22 09:18:40 · answer #2 · answered by justturning40 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If they have been staying with you, they should chip in for some food and electricity. You are not running a hotel. It's your house and your child. Talk to your husband about it calmly. Let him know how you feel but avoid an argument. These "adults" have no right to mess with you in your home. You are stressing and it's not fair to you or your child. It's unclear where your brother in law is staying, but they should stay there if he has space.
Sounds like it's time to GO.
2006-12-22 09:22:45 · answer #3 · answered by Tellin' U Da Truth! 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i am wondering if they have their own place? if helping the brother in law, why not stay with him? if any other relatives, why not take turns?i am not sure if there is a easy way with the in laws conflict. maybe you could write out a note before you go to work in the morning, with a few things that would be helpful for them to do , that would help around the house. maybe they need to be asked to help out. leave the note on the kitchen table so it will be seen and see what happens. that could be a start.
2006-12-22 09:18:22 · answer #4 · answered by wisdom 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you all need to sit down and work out a schedule as well as payment for food/rent from your inlaws. It won't do any good to be confrontational just sit down calmly and rationally. If you can't maybe it would be best to just ask them to make other living arrangements because it just isn't working out the way it is.
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2016-10-05 22:09:29 · answer #6 · answered by lavinia 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't understnad why your in-laws are staying with you so they can help your brother inlaw, seems like they should be staying with him.
However if it was me I would have my husband tell them that the situation is becoming stressful and that they need to be gone by a certain date.
2006-12-22 09:20:10 · answer #7 · answered by Axel M 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's time to give these people the boot. Get another apartment and don't invite them along. These people need to grow up and pay their own way in life. There may be hard feelings, but it sounds like they could care less about yours.
2006-12-22 09:20:27 · answer #8 · answered by mojonah 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your house, your rules. Dont like it, gotta go. You pay the cost to be the boss in YOUR house.
They would tell you the same thing if it were you in this situation and not them.
2006-12-22 09:14:06 · answer #9 · answered by â¤??? ?å???? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
suck it up and just wait till they leave unless theyre stayin more than 6 months. If not- have atalk with them & tell them that u feel like u have no privacy.
2006-12-22 09:20:37 · answer #10 · answered by Cheesy Stuff 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋