My mom just lost her job today. I know that she is going to come home all gripy and ready to get mad over enything. I've been cleaning the house, spottless, but she will still find something to get mad about when she gets home. When she's mad, she acts likes she's 4yrs old and throwing a tantrum. She'll hate everything for the entire weekend +. It's allmost Christmas and I don't want her to be like that. No matter what we do, comfort her, clean, say we love her, stay away from her, she will still HATE everything. She will act depressed and it will seem like theres nothing we can do for her. I really don't want her to be so mad during Christmas time. Not to mention she is a little hatefull to my dad, brother and I. NOTHING makes her smile. What do I do to make her feel better? I hate seeing her like this, it allso makes the rest of the house so depressing.
2006-12-22 09:09:00 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Why don't you take everything you said here and tell your mom. Maybe she just doesn't realize it. Hugs.
2006-12-22 09:11:34 · answer #1 · answered by Jennifer B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hello Dear =)
Take control!!
That is the only option in this situation....
She'll probably appreciate it on some level....
Does she drink?? This is a valid excuse, trust me..
If not, can you round up any Xanax, Valium, Tranxene from any other family members??
She really needs some chemical intervention, or, as you have mentioned, your holidays will be hellish for the rest of your family.
Drug her, or get her drunk, and take complete control of the household until Tuesday. By then, she should have come to some sort of terms with things. It's too late now to get her to the Doctor for a prescription, I'm sure. But you may want to do so on Tuesday. It sounds as if she has some anxiety issues, or possibly some Bipolar disorder. Any decent family doctor can put her on an antidepressant that should help with her mood swings, so that when these little "problems" emerge in life, she doesn't automatically turn into attilla the hun.
Happy Holidays, and Namaste,
--Tom
2006-12-22 09:15:25 · answer #2 · answered by glassnegman 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well cleaning and all is not going to solve the problem, it is avoiding it. Your mom is probably mad as she has all the responsibilities on her shoulders. All three of you will have to make her sit down n tell her a few things.
1. find out how she feels, what is her biggest fear. I mean may be finance is not the reason, may be she liked the job, or it was something to keep her occupied. Loosing a job is just a part of the whole story, let her talk, let her throw out her emotions.
2. Tell her that no matter what she will be the best mom ever, life is full of ups and downs, its ok. tell her she is not alone, her biggest strength is you all, and she is your biggest strenght.
3. try to divert her mind, keep her occupied in something or the other, remember no matter what you say or do, keeping her occupied and keeping her mind off the subject is the best way to go about it
2006-12-22 09:20:15 · answer #3 · answered by dynamite 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hi extreme priced =) Take administration!! it extremely is the only determination in this occasion.... She'll probably have exciting with it on some factor.... Does she drink?? that's a valid excuse, have faith me.. If now no longer, are you able to around up any Xanax, Valium, Tranxene from the quite a few relatives?? She extremely desires some chemical intervention, or, as you have reported, your holiday journeys could be hellish for something of your loved ones. Drug her, or get her under the effect of alcohol, and take complete administration of the family till finally Tuesday. via using then, she could have come to a pair form of words with themes. that's in basic terms too previous due now to get her to the well being care provider for a prescription, i'm effective. however the will arises to end that on Tuesday. needless to say she has some stress subject concerns, or probably some Bipolar ailment. Any decent family well being care provider can placed her on an antidepressant that should desire to assist together with her temper swings, so as that as immediately as those little "themes" emerge in life, she would not immediately substitute into attilla the hun. satisfied holiday journeys, and Namaste, --Tom
2016-10-18 21:28:22 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
She needs attention. Losing a job is not only financial rejection, but it means that she is losing her world away from home. Smother her with appreciation and endure her hurt. Let her see that she is not alone in her time of trouble. The sooner she is accepted for another job, the sooner her mind will be at ease.
2006-12-22 09:27:25 · answer #5 · answered by mojonah 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's very thoughtful of you wanting to help her out. When Mom is mad the whole household is in a uproar. Leave her to your father, that is his job as her husband. You've done yours, now, if she still is unhappy point out reasons why she should be. I'm sure you'd come with several.
2006-12-22 09:19:11 · answer #6 · answered by ~Jessica~ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow! thats a tough one. I'd say just try explaining to her that there will be more opportunities that will come along later. And even though she may feel pretty down now...things will get better eventually.(And hopefully soon!) I hope this helps...
2006-12-22 09:15:56 · answer #7 · answered by *Manda* 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
unfortuntally you cannot do much more then you are doing right now... it is not you, it is her... when she is calm, have you ever talked to her about her actions? maybe she does not know what she is doing hurts your families feelings... all i can say is that you need to make the best of it.. especially cause it is christmas!
2006-12-22 09:13:56 · answer #8 · answered by crystal s 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
try talking to her, remind her that it's christmas time and it's a time to be happy and be with the family, remind her that God will look out for her. Pray with her.
2006-12-22 09:12:29 · answer #9 · answered by Miss E 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Pray for her, and with her. I'd talk to her and let her know how you feel. Just be honest.
2006-12-22 09:18:10 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋