Somethimes if my boyfriend even talks to another girl or something i get jealous, I get jealous when i dont get enough attention b/c sometimes i dont. I get upset when i think about his ex's or something like that, and really jealous when other girls flirt with him, I dont say anything b/c most of the time there is really no reason to be jealous.
2006-12-22 09:03:39 · 25 answers · asked by Amy 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Yes I understand how that can be well you need to work on your trust issues and have your man reassure you that you are the one for him after you talked to him believe him and know that you are a special person with or without a man
2006-12-22 09:06:06 · answer #1 · answered by Angel Virgo 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Jealousy is the big green monster and it can ruin a relationship. There is no need to be jealous and you stated it correctly so why be jealous particularly over some guy who may like you and leave you or over some guy who you like and may love you despite your jealousy although they are few and far between. Don't allow yourself to think so much about what goes on between someone else and your guy or what someone else may or may not be thinking. It is detrimental to you and your state of mind. Live and let live. Trust is a matter of believing in someone and not second guessing them and of course not allowing yourself to become jealous over them for any reason. Everybody flirts now and then but it is what happens after the flirt that counts and that is where you come in. If your guy succumbs to a flirt then he is not worth wsting your time on anyway. Why would you want someone whose head can be turned by the first skirt? So calm down and give yourself some room and relax.
2006-12-22 17:11:01 · answer #2 · answered by Lewis P 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Girl, i have the same issue.
But ur right not to say anything, cuz really there is no reason 2 b jealous.
He's just a guy and im sure ur an attractive woman and you'll find another man. If he flirts with them other whores or watever just relax and let other men flirt wit u. Then you'll see how he will react.
Like they say
All's fare in love and war
2006-12-22 17:08:57 · answer #3 · answered by KidCudi 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Did you already asked yourself this question: Why am I a jealous person? or best: Why are these insecuriness bothering me too much.
If you said that you get jealous easily, you should examine yourself and check what are the areas that you need to work on. Like saying is this really worth it? or do I need to get every body attention. If you are a constantly person showing or expressing your jealousy for no reason you are going to create an atmosphere in which no one wants to be around you. Believes me that it is not pleasant being around of someone that has a lot of insecuriness.
I used to be a jealous person but with my attitudes I myself destroy a lot of people with my jealousy and really it wasn't necessary to be in that position.
I hope that you take the time to examine yourself and let others enjoy being around you. Good luck.
2006-12-22 17:14:55 · answer #4 · answered by Yvonne G 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Actually whether or not you should feel any certain way doesn't matter here for it is how you feel...think of this if you can.....
"Someones past holds so much, a veritable arsenal of memories, some even close to the heart, some we regret (bear with me here), to take that part of someone and throw it in their face from BEFORE you met them is truly low. Your life began with the one you Love WHEN you either met or fell in love. It is playing really dirty to bring up another's past loves or mistakes.....you at that point only make yourself lower than a snake's underbelly......so rather than slither through life, enjoy it.
Bon Apetit!!!! Look forward, for looking behind causes a firestorm of chaos. I know, I went through it. i learned the hard way.
Come right straight out and ask your partner just how much attention they need...the more honest you are, the faster you Will remedy the Green Eyed Monster. Sadly some people like thriving on chaos ~ I, however am NOT one...now ask yourself...are YOU?
2006-12-23 01:42:49 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's okay to be jealous sometimes! It's hard to see the person who once held you, hold another! I think you just need to let go of the past! But dont forget it. As for your current boyfriend. Tell him that you fell childish about it but you do get jealous over tiny things, he'll reasure you. I'm sure you have no reason to be jealous, he is YOUR boyfriend and all, which means your the only one for him!
HOPE I HELPED
BYE<33
2006-12-22 17:09:09 · answer #6 · answered by briacass 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was that way when I was younge... thank god I out grew it... it's not really jealousy... it's you being a little insecure about your self and maybe comparing your self to other girls/women. What you described sounded like if I was talking only it's was when I was in my teens and 20's... I have to say as I got older it just eased up... I can't explain it but in time you'll see.
When you love someone, you automatically feel that everyone sees the qualities in them that you see and thats not always true. So... relax, if your BF is talking to a girl most of the time its what it is just talking... remember your the one thinking these things most of the time.. I know this may not help but this is where your at right now and change those enter voices. Keep remembering he picked you and just stand by him and be proud of it... hope this helps!!!!!!!!!!!!!
2006-12-22 17:19:25 · answer #7 · answered by Sandy 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you know there isnt a reason to be jealous then why would you act this way. You man will know other girls. Get over it he lives in a world with more than just you. I dont understand why females get so upset when their boyfriend know another female. I would be happy that other women are attracted to my boyfriend and he is with me. I wouldnt worry if he speaks to another female I would be worried if he didn't.
2006-12-22 17:10:11 · answer #8 · answered by justturning40 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Jealousy is an emotion we all feel from time to time so you aren't wrong for feeling the way you feel but you should ask yourself why!Why do you feel that way!Is you sense of self worth so poor that you think that just any old girl could get your man!I would think not.Girls only seem to flirt with a guy that has a girlfriend or is walking with someone who is prettier than them anyway.I'm a handsome individual myself so trust my knowledge on this one.Happy Holidays and good luck!
2006-12-22 17:13:02 · answer #9 · answered by pclordnasty 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The first thing to solvong a problem is admitting you have one...good for you you admitted that, now everytime you feel a jealous rage coming on, tell yourself that's it no big deal your man loves you and he's going home with you...or just get a man that isn't so desirable by women
2006-12-22 17:07:43 · answer #10 · answered by graciegirl 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Most people are jealous to a point, but if you have no trust in your BF then you don't deserve him. You cant have a relationship without trust.
Your jealousy comes from the fact that your not happy with yourself. If you had more self esteem and self confidence you wouldn't care who he talked too, what happened in his past etc...
2006-12-22 17:07:52 · answer #11 · answered by WENDY G 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋