I am currently 20 have always liked older men, but wasn't aware of it until recently. It's most likely "daddy issues" because my father wasn't emotionally there and wasn't able to support our family.
Guys around my age are a turn off. They're way too immature and whenever one tried to show me a sign of affection, they act so childish I immediately get disgusted.
I recently noticed this man twice my age paying attention to me at a local store. I'm a very shy person and wasn't sure if he was just being friendly, but I did get the vibe. Each time i've gone inside, he's always trying to make conversation and gives me a lot of eye contact. He also takes forever when i'm purchasing something and I get the impression its on purpose.
I do like this guy, and I do want something to happen but everyone tells me it's just plain wrong. I actually don't believe that. What do I do? This is all so new to me.
I'm being serious, so please no hateful comments...
2006-12-22 08:51:05 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
"He also takes forever when i'm purchasing something and I get the impression its on purpose."
I take this quote to mean he is working at the register. If that isn't true then disregard this statement. I think you may want to do your homework on a 40 year old guy working the register at a local store, but that's just me. Do what your heart tells you and not what a bunch of anonymous people suggest.
2006-12-22 08:59:47 · answer #1 · answered by Ask me anything 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If this is really a serious issue you are having because you are searching for a daddy...an older man is not what you need but maybe professional help. You need to express this to a pro, that can help you get over this. Do not get involved with a man twice your age, because dad wasn't really there...the only reason you should have to go after a Papa is some serious stocks, bonds and retirement accounts...for real. I have seen other girls deal with this and get into a situation that they shouldn't have...you are young and if you choose to date, it should be with someone closer to your age not your parents. Most of the time the men that age are looking for a young girl, that hasn't been set in their ways and will do "whatever" they want, you don't want that. Take this serious and seek help. Don't make a life changing mistake. Good Luck
2006-12-22 09:00:45 · answer #2 · answered by Sassy One 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I really don't think its a issue of age here. You know what you want, a mature guy, a Man. If this guy is a man and you indicate your interest he should move on it.
Some males never grow up, he may not have the balls to put himself out there. Just like I am sure there are some boys your age that are at your maturity level, and could provide what you want.
Don't settle for less in any situation.
By the way my number is 555-2347
hehehe.
2006-12-22 09:05:16 · answer #3 · answered by Akshun 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I say that you give your self a chance to experience life and to grow up and have a good relationship with a man that will take care and represent you for the woman you are. My only advice is take it easy and do small steps, don't rush things and make sure that what ever happens, doesn't happens cause of wrong reasons (like trying to fill gaps from the past) but instead cause it's a genuine feeling...
2006-12-22 09:00:19 · answer #4 · answered by wanna_help_u 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, I call people "honey" and "sugar" because I'm from the south. However, if I were talking to someones husband, I would *try* not to. If someone called my husband "baby", that would be another matter entirely. Baby is NOT an acceptable southern term of endearment between adults that don't know one another.
2016-05-23 16:33:56 · answer #5 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some guys can be real jerks or annoying. But some aren't, so if you want to date any guy around your age, look for the quiet ones.
It's wrong for everyone else to think that you should date this older guy because they don't have the same opinion as you do, so don't mind them. It's like...a 16-year old guy having a crush on a 8-year old girl and vice versa. It could seem wrong, but I don't think it would be.
2006-12-22 08:56:08 · answer #6 · answered by Banana Hero [sic] 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just go for it. A lot of girls like older men. It doesn't really matter what anyone else thinks. I know if I was the older guy it would not bother me.
2006-12-22 09:00:52 · answer #7 · answered by Diddly 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the only problem is that if you go after a "daddy" figure, in a few years youll have a grandpa on your hands.
my ex gf was 26 and went with a guy who was 46 and now she is 43 and he is 63 yuckkkkkkkk
be careful what you wish for.
2006-12-22 08:57:37 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Go for it. I'd like a date a 20 year old but my wife says NO. Merry Christmas & have a Happy Nude year. LOL
2006-12-22 08:59:01 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
age is just a number as long as both are over 21
2006-12-22 08:56:26 · answer #10 · answered by ? 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋