what do you think about child beauty pagents?

Question

i'm thinking about entering my daughter in some pagents.... any thoughts?

Answer 1

I think it's sick to parade your child around like that. Let her be a child--don't steal her innocence.

Answer 2

Personally, I dont care for them. But I think that as long as your daughter wants to do them and your not entering her because you wish you did as a child. Also I think that before pagents bills should be paid and she should be doing well in school. Good Luck!

Answer 3

i think of infant elegance pagents are incorrect. They practice infants that seems are the main serious element. What approximately character, intelligence, love of others, duty (and the record is going on and on)? I even have thought many circumstances approximately why the mother and father do it. the only issues i will arise with are that the two that a win is robust for the mother and father' ego or the mum needed to be in a pagent and could no longer or replaced into in one and did no longer win. How unhappy!!

Answer 4

Honestly? I would keep her as far from it as possible. Often, for the child, the only lesson learned is that people are defined by their attractiveness, that one has to doll themselves up to make it in the world. The rest is a breeding ground for extreme pressure, loss, and low self-esteem. It also breeds arrogance and lessens the child's sense of who she is spiritually.

I am sure you are a wonderful mother and want to do the best by your daughter. Any child would say 'yes' to a beauty pageant, because it seems exciting new. She will have to see parents cruelly screaming at their children, telling them they don't look pretty enough to win, that if they don't win they will be punished and everyone will know they're not 'good enough'. Trust me. I've seen it happen, in person.

With sports at least the child has a group on her side wishing the best for the individual team, rather than just themselves. Often, this will teach a child empathy, compassion and teamwork. Find a coach who promotes hard work and trying and doing one's best, as well as the elation that comes of winning.

I believe there are always complications in individual sports, but then I may just be prejudiced. Years ago, I was the nanny of a child in gymnastics and ice-skating. Her mother yelled all the time, the gymnastics coaches were quite difficult, and she was made to believe she was better than everyone else if she won. Obviously, there were better parents out there who only praised their children, but they were the minority. Team sports simply seem to have a better influence on children.

I would advise you not to do pageants, but if you choose to please remember to make sure she realizes it's not all about winning. However, regardless of your positive influence, she will absolutely be affected by the way other mothers treat it, and may come to believe that attractiveness is the main attribute one should be judged by.

All the best. Happy holidays!

Answer 5

It is so funny that you asked this question, because I asked similar questions a few months ago, and got totally put down for even considering it.

I think that if it is an extreme competition like the ones that Jon Benet Ramsey was in, where the little girls are made up like mini-adults and have so much makeup and hairspray on that you can't even see their real looks, then these are not the best type of pagents for a young child. But if a teenager or even a pre-teen wants to be in them, then I think they should be able to give it a try.


Now, there are many pagents that do not allow make up or hairpieces, and where the kids wear normal clothes. I put my daughter in a county fair pagent, where there was no judging at her age group. In the older groups the kids do talents, such as clogging, singing, tap dancing, or something like that. They do wear fancier dresses, but I never saw any of the kids looking like they didn't want to be there. I had friends growing up that did these pagents and none of them felt pressured into it. They in fact entered themselves in them once they turned 18. If the kid wants to do them, and they think it is fun, then why not let them? If it got to the point that a child wasn't having fun anymore, then I think they can say they don't want to do it anymore, but there is no reason not to let them do it if they want to.

She is your daughter and no one knows her like you do, so do not let a complete stranger tell you that you are a selfish mother for wanting to do this. It is yours and your daughters choice, not theirs!

Answer 6

I think they set up the child for danger, and they just might grow up with some problems, always thinking they aren't pretty enough. That's just my opinion, I'd never allow my daughter enter a pagent.

Answer 7

they are fake and more for the parents benefit than the kids expecially when they put makeup on them no five year old or younger should be wearing make up everyday. and putting them in a pagent would take away there time to have fun in there childhood

Answer 8

I think that they shouldn't do the pagents because for one they are endangering the safety for the child and it's not good for kids to be wearing makeup

Answer 9

I think they're fine if your daughter wants to do them and it's not just your choice. Also, I've heard of the allnatural pageants. I don't like how they put all that make up on the little girls and fake teeth and all that. Its not right. I think it makes them feel that what they are born with is not good enough.

Answer 10

Prez say he not like these. Prez say it put too much pressure on kid. Prez say this teaches kids that life all about being beautiful when they should be working on getting an education and bettering themselves at sports. Prez say put her on a sports team. Prez say gymnastics. Prez say dance. Prez say anything but beauty pagent. Prez say warm spot for sick old men looking for young girl. Prez better know!

Answer 11

Nothing like hookering your daughter out a young age. The make-up, the costumes, they're not children anymore, they're small adults paraded around for pedophiles to drool over.