I don't have very much money to go x-mas shopping, we moved into town and our jobs don't start until next month. So I told my daughter that x-mas was coming until the end of January, am I a bad mom to do this. We used most of our money to move here, and yes ends are barely being met. We are both teachers, and I think we moved bacause my husband started to get involved with the school secretary, so one of them left voluntarily and yes she was the single mom, so My husband moved us out of that place, he claims to feel sorry for her.
2006-12-22 08:30:53 · 13 answers · asked by mom 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
please don't drag your little girl into this by confronting the father...either way he is still her father and she is just an innocent...you know what a scum bag he is...she don't need to!!! i can remember when my older children were very young and we were homeless and we had to wait for christmas... my heart goes out to you!!! what i did was just keep hyping the kids up about how great our "special late chrismas" was going to be. my older kids are almost 21 and 16 now...they barely remember those days...you and your daughter will be fine...God bless.
2006-12-22 08:52:13 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
So now, your husband planned on cheating and ruining the wonderful family he had at home, and the 7 yr old child is the one who is going to pay for this???
HECK NO! I don't care if my payments were late, I'd buy my child christmas gifts and still celebrate, the poor child has been through enough trauma with the moving and the stress between you and your husband, the last thing she needs to go through christmas feeling sad and depressed on top of other stress.At least allow the child to actually have a childhood.
2006-12-22 16:56:07 · answer #2 · answered by mirmade13 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Call local churches in your area explain that you are new to the area, that you don't start working til next month and see if anyone can help you. If not find a dollar tree or everythings a dollar type store and go in there and spend about $10 and you could have all kinds of things that she would probably like that you don't have to spend a fortune on. Especially at 7 thats a fairly easy age.
2006-12-22 17:30:12 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
No your not a bad mother, you had to move ( for reasons I think are BS, your husband is a fool ). Its hard for a child that age to understand that Santa isn't coming to her house. I know there are alot of places around my town that give out free gifts for children. Maybe you can contact Toys for Tots or something of that nature to at least be able to give her some thing. I do wish you and your family a Merry Christmas :)
2006-12-22 16:37:43 · answer #4 · answered by WENDY G 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
no ur not bad but ur husband is! cheating little bas tard and why should he feel sorry 4 her?(the secretary right) he moved you guys away and had 2 use alot of money 2 buy a new place and now his daughter is going 2 have a late x mas u ar not bad and shouln't feel bad!
2006-12-22 16:36:26 · answer #5 · answered by dauschaundlovers 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No!! You are not a bad mom,
I have a six year old daughter named Annastasia, I love her more than life, but this year my wife and I bought into a new home Oct 30th 2006, We don't have the monies for her christmas this year but she will survive....
This will be the first time for her to not recieve anything from daddy but all is not lost. Don't worry about your husband or his decision to move I mean "Run Away " from his problem, You will be alright, If it is not a problem, you can take a look at my websight,
http://www.dawud-abbas.magix.net it's not complete yet but listen to the music and photos it may help you to relax. and not worry, your baby will be just fine.
2006-12-22 16:44:41 · answer #6 · answered by DJenks64 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tell you 7 year old in front of daddy what daddy did and this why Christmas is late. It could be a lesson in the naughty/nice area and how being naughty affects more than just you. Get over the stupid secretarty and tell your husband that all of this is entirely his fault, and make sure the kid knows too. for Christmas he gets nothing but a guilt trip, potential divorce, and will have to pay alimony.
2006-12-22 16:36:29 · answer #7 · answered by RoadRunner 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
you got other issues going on right now. i think your daughter will be devastated if there is absolutely nothing and i also think that she is at an age where you can reason with her and explain the truth to. at 7 she will understand times are hard, honestly she probably already knows times are hard right now. the thing with your husband though you need to get that in check and get counseling. being teachers you both should know that and act upon it. good luck to your family. happy holidays=)
2006-12-22 16:35:32 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is there any way for you to go to the local church or anywhere like that to ask for gifts for your kids?? Or maybe your folks could help you out?? Gift giving doesn't have to be expensive, perhaps you could do something special with them instead and then give some small gifts from the dollar store. My folks didn't have a lot of money growing up........one my my favorite memories of the holidays was making homemade sugar cookies. We' d die the batches and it was like making cookies from Playdough! The Santa gifts were usually bigger than the ones from my folks........maybe you could ask one of your family members if they wouldn't mind letting their gift be your Santa gift this year.........
Sorry hope that helps.
2006-12-22 23:26:01 · answer #9 · answered by Kati B 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
by no means are u a bad mother.. times are hard an i think if u sit down with her an talk to her she will some what understand.. I can remember my dad sittin me down an talkin to me about stuff at a young age an i understood most the time..
2006-12-22 17:25:14 · answer #10 · answered by pruittsgurl 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋