With over drinking? 2 yrs running, this person has "started" in drink, causing upset etc. It is becoming a real problem, with other family members. Is it reasonable to refuse them this year, going on past experience, even if you feel kinda mean? They never bring any alcohol, so you end up paying for them to give you grief! Feel mean, say no? Or, risk another upset?
2006-12-22 08:27:14 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
tell em to piss of.
2006-12-22 18:40:59 · answer #1 · answered by karen. 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's not fair on you to put up with alcohol-induced anti-social behaviour, no matter how close a relative this person is- even if they are one of your parents.
At Christmas dinner,when it's clear that the trouble maker has had enough to drink, you need to make it clear to them.
when they reach for the bottle again, simply say, 'Look, I think you've had enough.'
If they try to insist on more booze you could add, 'Well ok, let's have a taste of the drinks YOU brought with you.'
Make sure you say it all loud enough for everyone to hear, it'll stop conversations, everyone will be looking at the nuisance person and they'll be so ashamed that they'll pipe down.
Good luck.
2006-12-22 09:07:08 · answer #2 · answered by Jennifer O 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
yeah my mom is a alcoholic she would never admit it though it has caused endless problems in my family we are all going to my sisters Christmas day and she has asked me to make sure my mom hasn't had a drink before we get there don't now how I'm going to do it without a major row! you could pass the problem on to some one else like my sister has done! or you just have to except this person for what they are and hope for the best good luck
2006-12-22 08:45:17 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
My entire family. Mom doesn't want me around and thinks I'm not as good as her other "perfect children", siblings like to treat me like I was the "family mistake and no good", and I think they're all a**holes. So I moved 16 hours from them, now i spend Christmas with my fiance's mom and dad and pretend that they don't exsist..besides....who needs presents...right?
2006-12-22 09:06:03 · answer #4 · answered by mirmade13 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
yes my sister...she's not a drinker but she always makes sure she ruins it for everyone by bringing the past up, mainly about her and how she has had a bad life etc etc.if it's not about her then theres hell to pay...it just ruins everything...thats why i dont ask her to come over any more....she does it each time she visits us...well she used to....not any more....
2006-12-22 08:38:58 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would explain that if they come to your home you don't want them drinking. If this person has a problem with that then that then they are coming for the wrong reasons anyhow and you should not feel guilty a all for not inviting them.
2006-12-22 08:40:03 · answer #6 · answered by Tauna H 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Alcohol, family and Christmas are not a good combination. I say have no alcohol this year and maybe just maybe everything will go a lot smoother. Just a thought..
2006-12-22 08:32:29 · answer #7 · answered by Lucinda M 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
don't invite them and if you cant get out of it stop giving them drink if they look like they are getting drunk. start serving the coffee. had 2 uncles that made my childhood Christmas's nights a nightmare , will not put up with it now as i am an adult ,and can speak out my mum used to bite her tongue for peace sake/ and only made them cheekier as they knew they could get away with acting the p---k
2006-12-22 08:37:21 · answer #8 · answered by jinx 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
face it there will be upset no matter what u do, at least if u say no then u'll have a quiet xmas!
and yes my sister is evil, its never her fault, pressies weren't enough etc etc....oh yeah andshe hates my guts cant even pretend on xmas 4 my parents sake!
2006-12-22 09:09:28 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
tell that person 2 stop driking ur alchohol and his own and go to an AA meeting and2 stop ruining x mas
2006-12-22 08:31:15 · answer #10 · answered by dauschaundlovers 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
"oh how we laughed" ha ha classic story never have had a time like that o the joy of christmas to be a fly on the wall in your house....
2016-05-23 16:30:57 · answer #11 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋