My ex and i broke up on dec. 4th. He was my first serious bf. I'm 16. He's almost 18. We're both gonna be lawyers. We're real busy , esp. him and he's out of town every other weekend. He said he felt bad for me cuz he's a bad bf.cuz he has no time 4 me. I love him, though. I didn't try to keep him, but I want him back. He still really likes me too, I think, but he knows it's 4 the best that we stay apart. I guess I know it, too, but I don't want it! What should I do? Should I try to talk to him or avoid him and spend my time focusing on my grades and law school?
2006-12-22 08:21:04 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
go about normal activities. It sounds to me that he is still interested in you and of course you to him. He is looking into the future an trying to get his life in order. You should do the same. If you are meant for each other then it will happen. You can keep in touch with each other as you both find yourselves and going to school. And if you don't hook back up at least you guys can still be friends. I think you'll end back up together once your schooling is in order and getting a career going.
2006-12-22 08:31:16 · answer #1 · answered by Karen A 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Idont see the problem with staying together. Since he is out of town all the time then why wouldnt you have time for school work and such? Since he is not always around it just gives you time apart and an opportunity to miss him, that way your time together is just that much more special. And you can help each other with school since you are both going for the same thing. If you still love him let him know, you dont want to be an old lady sitting on your pourch thinking "what if...." Love and relationships are never easy, you need to work at them.
2006-12-22 08:27:21 · answer #2 · answered by Chrissy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why can't you focus on school AND be friends? There's no law stopping you from being friends still. You can still talk and stuff. If things change then maybe you will end up together again some day. You don;t need to make any commitment. You're both still young for anything serious.
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2006-12-22 08:25:28 · answer #3 · answered by Wibble 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The best policy at any given time is to ask yourself not what will make you happy now, but what will make you happy in the future. It's good you have goals, wish I had more of your determination, but the fact is there are few and far between people who know what they want to do with themselves in the future; I started off heading to medical school in texas and now I make independant short films in philadelphia. The fact is you are young and love hurts even more when you havnt built up your defences. I'm not telling you to go for a rebound, but your perception of love and what you want in a man will change as you change and grow. With passing time, with or without a b/f, you will start to understand what you need more and more. My girlfriend broke up with me not too long ago and it still hurts alot. The best thing for me is to keep working, pain is suposed to be good for art, right? without the pain, there is no plesure.
2006-12-22 08:31:29 · answer #4 · answered by dewy_u 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Focus on prepare on you law schooll that will give you the bes of life...Hey just worry about school...I was in the same situation about your age well I was 19 and I did let him go and I haven't regret it...And believe or not he really was a great guy georgeous and everything a gal can wish for in a man....So school first Good luck...
2006-12-22 08:27:06 · answer #5 · answered by nena_en_austin 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Uh. I'd focus on getting out of high school and getting into an under grad program before I started talking about law school.
2006-12-22 08:28:45 · answer #6 · answered by Barrett G 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get over him and be productive. It sounds like you have big plans and a boy will just get in the way at your age anyway. If he doesn't want to be with you, you are better off to move on. Something better will be waiting down the road and you will be glad he did you this favor.
2006-12-22 08:24:41 · answer #7 · answered by PDH 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would create a sceduale and find at least one hour a day where you can socialise with him . I would not just drop him though. If you still really like him and he still likes you then you two deffinetly need to talk to eachother.
2006-12-22 08:25:18 · answer #8 · answered by Kailey 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
if u want to talk to him then talk to him. by doing this , you will feel better and both of you can talk and express your feeling for each other. I belevie , u shouldnt ingnore him.because you where in a realatioin ship with him and u still like him. So i thihnk you should call her, tell him how u feel. :)
2006-12-22 08:26:01 · answer #9 · answered by Boss 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Think about your priorities! Focus on school. Boys can wait, but opportunities can't.
2006-12-22 08:26:11 · answer #10 · answered by hillystargirl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋