what do i do?

Question

what do i do if my grandma dose not except me for who i am

Answer 1

Everyone has relatives that don't like you as much as you would like them to - the best you can do is just keep being yourself, and either avoid the person, or don't talk much to him/her.

Answer 2

My friend has a similar problem. Her grandma doesnt like her at all its like she just doesnt accept her. but her problem is that her grandma doesnt listen to her but if ur grandma will actually listen try talking to her. tell her that u love her very much and it hurts to see someone that u love so much cant accept u for the person u are and ask her why she wont accept u. just have a quiet talk with her and fix something up to eat while ur talking that always helps! well anyway happy holidays and gud luk!

Answer 3

Tatum, I went through this with my family when I was younger (I'm 50 now), and the only answer is that someone's failure to accept you because you are not like the idealized version of you they want is their loss, not your loss.

Think about the good things about yourself. Big things and little things. Think about the people who do accept you and think well of you. And know that if your grandmother truly does not see the good in you, if she's always focused on things she'd like to change about you, then she's the loser in the relationship because she's blinding herself to the positive things.

But a word in your grandmother's defense: she most likely refuses to accept you the way you are because she is afraid. She may be afraid that if she doesn't express disapproval of who you really are, someone will disapprove of her; or she may honestly be afraid that if you don't somehow turn out to be perfect (in her eyes), you will have an unhappy life.

In either case, she's probably a person who is driven by fear rather than love, and that's a pitiable situation to be in. It's unfortunately the case with a lot of people who seem to hate a lot of things or disapprove of a lot of things and people. They are afraid, afraid most of all of being unable to control all the things around them. Fear makes them react by lashing out at the world around them.

Know that if you are happy with the person you are and accept responsibility for yourself and your actions, then you don't need approval from other people. That can make you strong.

Answer 4

Hi Tatum.
What exactly is it that your grandma doesn't like about you? Is it something that you SHOULD change about yourself?
If you don't know the reason, have a heart-to-heart with her.
If it's something that you can't change or doesn't need to be changed, then grandma's the one with the problem, not you. You can be polite and respectful to her, but be true to and respect your own self first.

Answer 5

Tatum, you can't make someone do anything. You cannot control another. What you can do is learn to love yourself, to honor yourself, to accept yourself without judgment. You are the greatest person you know. Celebrate your greatness. And, if your grandmother can't see how great and wonderful you are, that's her problem. Don't make it yours. If you're living with her, or if this is really important, then sit down with her and ask her what about you seems to disturb her. Tell her you are doing your best. If she wants you to be a different person, tell her, gently, that you have to be yourself and that she can't mold you into someone else. Ask her for help in learning who you are and ask her for tolerance and acceptance of you. Good luck.

Answer 6

You cannot make people accept you. Find out what it is that she doesn't accept you for. If it is something that you can and want to change to gain her acceptance, do it, but if it is something trivia, don't worry about it. You be the best you can be and don't worry about what other people think.

Answer 7

My family still doesn't accept me, and I'm still not even sure my fiance's family accepts me.

Unfortunately, we can't make family love us and accept us.You kinda have to be your own best friend, as much as it hurts not to be accepted, and pair up with people who do accept you for who you are.