I genuingly love her!....any help would be very much appreciated.?

Question

I have just started university and in the first lecture, the very second I saw her, I knew she was the one. Gradually over the last 10 weeks, seeing her every day, talking to her now and again I have fallen in love with her. I am now at a stage where I think about her all day, every day! I see her quite often because we are in the same group of friends, she is very good mates with my mates....just that I had never met her before the start of uni. I met her recently with a group of mates, she seemed to show signs that she liked me. Also, i have been talking to her on MSN every 3 days on average, and for the first time, she started a conversation with me today. She knows I like her from about 6 weeks ago. I have never been out with a girl before, I'm not really sure what i should do....basically i'm just extremely confused. All I know is that I love her, I really care about her, i think i am obsessed with her. Any help would be great!

Answer 1

Yeah, ask her if she wants to go out to get coffee, see a movie or something. But obviously don't go straight off the deep end about how she's "the one" and that you're in love with her. Cos that might come off a bit.. errr.. loony and scare her. If in six months' time you're an inseparable couple.. tell her then :D

If you're sure she knows you like-like her, and she initiated an IM conversation, I'd say that was a good sign.

Of course since you're at university you could also go the tried and tested route of going out with your mates and making a move on the way home from the bar when everyone is hammered. But I think the coffee/movie idea is probably the classier plan. Maybe coffee, then steer the conversation towards movies, find out what she wants to see and later on ask if she'd like to go see it. How's that? Go on then. Hope it works out for you...

Answer 2

Find the right moment and say "hey, would you like to catch a movie or dinner sometime?" and see what she says.

Don't go nuts on the first date. Just make her feel relaxed with you and have fun. DO NOT dump it on her that you LOVE her.

Wait a few dates and see how things go...just be natural and let the "moves" come naturally...open doors, pull her chair, put your hand on the small of her back to let her go first through a door etc.

You can give her a peck on the cheek the first night. I don't think any girl would object to that. It shows confidence. Maybe take her dancing on the 2nd or third date...dancing always gives you the opportunity to get physically close and you will know if she likes you with how close she gets to you. Remember, save this for a date where you are ready to have things advance more!

I knew by our third date that hubby was the guy I wanted to marry...I knew right away kind of but it didn't really all fall into place as everyone keeps their guard up until they are really sure you know?

So just keep it casual and natural. You know how you feel, now you have to find out how she feels, but don't rush it unless you get the signals from her that she wants you to. Just look in her eyes and you'll know! Good luck.

Answer 3

Personally I think that you are acting and feeling very normal if this is your first infatuation. You seem to be just perfect in the process of love. Go ahead and tell her that you want to get to know her better by spending more time alone. If she respond favorably then you're in there like swimwear. I know on a students income you may not be able to wine and dine her but put some thought into to make it look as though you did. Buy a picnic basket, fill it with McDonald's or something like that and give her a nice card with words you may not verbally be willing to tell her. When it's over, ask her if she would make your life perfect and see you again maybe for coffee or a movie. Ask her about herself with sincerity and let her know some things about you so she will have an idea of what kind of young man you are and make sure you find out what speed she likes a relationship to go such as how soon for hand holding, kissing and sex. They all must be discussed eventually but maybe not on the first date or the first time you get together. It's okay to be shy but you still have to do what you have to do. I suggest make it a habit to take long deep breathes. Odds are, she's just as nervous or uncomfortable as you may be.

Answer 4

First, take a deep breath and relax. If you jump all over her, you will probably scare her away. Ask her out. Take her to dinner and maybe out for something fun. No movie or play. Something where you can talk.

Don't call her the next day or even the day after. Wait about 3-7 days before calling. Women like the chase as much as men do. If you call to quickly, you could blow the intrigue.

The key is to relax and be yourself. She already knows you and will know if you are being fake.

Answer 5

Ask her to wait up after class you would like to talk with her. I am guessing that you already know that she is available? That she isn't going steady, engaged or married? If she is available, ask her if you can take her out. Try to have a plan before you ask her like a cool place to go on your date. A nice quiet restaurant is always a good start. Some place where you can talk and get to know each other. Try to find a place that is not to expensive. You would like to keep it casual but not a fast food place either. I know you will be nervous but just try to be yourself. I know your in love but try not to move to fast and scare the hell out of her. You have school in common so it's a good way to make conversation. Try to get her to talk about herself and learn as much as you can. What she likes and doesn't like. She already knows you like her or you wouldn't be there. Just act cool and casual like you do this everyday. Be confident in who you are. Girls love that. You will be fine. It's just a date. Good luck

Answer 6

If you havent ever been out with a girl before, this might not be love. Then again, it could. You dont know til you try. Risk it all. Ask her out. Dont move too fast for her tho, or you might lose her before you find out if it could be love or not. Take chances in life. The only things you will regret later in life are the risks that you didnt take, and do you really want to be asking yourself years down the road 'what if' or 'could she have been "the one"'?

Answer 7

Get a grip! Woman instinctively abhor weakness in men. Walk up to her and ask her out, it's that simple. If your too much of a wreck to do so than even if you did get her by some other act of fate your level of pain as she eventually leaves you for a more confident man will be unparalleled to say the least. Confidence is king.

Answer 8

Ok...don't tell her you think you love her or you are obsessed with her or you think about her all day....these are all very need sounding. Tell her you like her, are interested in spending more time to get to know her and ask her out. Don't tell her you love her too soon...see what developes first. Unless she is just a super freak...then ask her out, take her to the stake house bathroom and f*&^ her good!...Just kidding, the first part is what I really meant.

Answer 9

awww! that's so sweet. just give her a compliment...us girls love that, and we'll be thinking about YOU all the time if u tell us we're pretty or have gorgeous eyes or something. don't be shy. she's ur friend, and you talk a lot. and she knows u like her. she's prolly waiting for you to make a move. ask her out on a date. (something fun like roller skating or bowling). good luck xox

Answer 10

It sounds like she likes you enough to go on a date with you. Go for it, ask her out and you'll see how it goes. Don't let anyone else swipe her off her feet. Good luck.