Which would you trust more in people?

Question

Would you trust a girl who goes about her life expecting to be trusted or a one who is always trying to prove their trust to you. The reason I ask is because I have known a lot of untrusting people who act like they are supposed to be trusted and people that are trusting also act like they are supposed to be trusted. My girlfriend acts like she should be trusted, but sometimes she does things that make me question her motives and she wont explain them to me so I can understand better her motives. Like Im supposed to just know that she has good intentions for everything rather than earning trust she expects it.

I dont like doing things like this because when you are getting to know someone and your trying to invest your heart you dont want to get burned so you want to make sure your investment is good by questioning motives and expecting honesty in return, not omissive behavior, it seems suspicious like she shouldnt be trusted. Is it possible to have this behavior and also be a very trustful person.

Answer 1

Kindly find hereunder my answer,

Do not stand in a dangerous place trusting in miracles. Arabian Proverb

Mistrust before you trust. Arabian Proverb

There is never trust without loss. Basque Proverb

Do not trust a person who claims to be honest, and never trust exaggerated friendliness. Chinese Proverb

Don't forget to distrust. Greek Proverb

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Answer 2

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Answer 3

You and your woman need to communicate more, then you wouldn't have so many trust issues. Trust is something that goes both ways. Some say it is earned, others think should be given. I believe that if two ppl are completely comfortable with each other and they have nothing to hide, then trust would not be an issue.

Although it is true that in a word filled with so much corruption and lies, it's difficult to trust ppl, it's still a quality we all need to work on because once trust is lost, it's very difficult to regain and even if you forgive the offender, then there's always still that void. So I'd say talk to your girl and as for other ppl, just be cautious and always try to give them the benefit of the doubt untill they prove otherwise because all persons deserve at least one chance.

Answer 4

If you are having such a hard problem trusting your girlfriend and examining each and everything she does to decipher her motives..this is not the girl for you and you don't need to be in a relationship with anybody. A relationship is risk as is life overall. It is not smart to put your sole trust in someone in the very beginning without getting to know them first. But if you've already made a commitment to this girl you've already indirectly stated you're willing to trust her and believe in her. Maybe you should have spent more time building a friendship and thus a foundation of trust rather than starting into a girlfriend/boyfriend situation where you'd be alert on the the offense because of your own personal reasons for not trusting other people. Your distrust for her is not because of her actions but your own insecurites and the lens you choose to view the world through based on your personal experiences prior to the relationship. I bet she doesn't always explain, because she doesn't have to. She's not your child. She's your equal. You need to respect her as such or move on with your life and allow her to be with someone who gives her a little more credit.

Answer 5

Trust no one....suspect everyone.

My experience is this....the people who assume everyone trusts them and they in turn trust everyone....those are the people you can trust the most.....the reason they are this way is because they are trustworthy and they assume everyone is just like them.

The people who are always trying to convince people they can be trusted are shady.....they do this because they know they are sneaky and they are trying to cover their tracks before they get caught.

You GF probably just wants you to let her have some space to be herself.....you aren't married and she still desires the freedom to make some of her own decisions without having to answer to someone. She probably thinks your are acting just like her dad and she will dump you because she needs to be trusted. You would hate it if she questioned everything you do. Give her some space.

Answer 6

Trust is something that must be given by you and not "earned" by someone else. I would be leery of someone always trying to "prove" something to me. If they feel down deep that they have to "prove" it, I wonder what they are trying to make up for. So...trust someone until they give you a reason not to. Once do something to harm your trust, then you will have to decide when/if to trust them again.

Answer 7

there should be a level of trust, you shouldn't be blind but you shouldn't be so trust worthy that you pull the wool over your eyes.
I would start a relationship with 100% trust and as time goes on it ether stays at that level or it starts to drop, and when you loss to much trust then its time to end it.
But also keep in mind that you cant expect to drill her every time
she goes out with out you. because that excessive and can drive her away.

Answer 8

God has given you something called intuition and it seems to me that you are using it. If something inside tells you that she isn't honest then you must listen to that. On the other hand if you are just naturally a distrusting person then perhaps you need to look a little deeper into yourself to find out why. A relationship without trust is doomed

Answer 9

I would trust the girl that is actting like she wants to earn your trust not just get it like its nothing

Answer 10

Sweetheart, I read the first line of your question and then the last two, why? Because I couldn't be arsed, but in reply to your initial question the only way I'd fully trust someone would be complete sedation.