i have this boyfriend he is 15 and im 14, we've been dating for 1 month now and he says he loves me...he treats me really good, he hasn't kissed me yet, he says its different w/me so he is scared to kiss me. im afraid that he dont really like me as much as i like him...he says he loves me w/all him heart and always will. i've been abusive relationships before were they tell me they love me...but he dont hit me. my question is...................Does he love me like he says he does??
2006-12-22 07:54:56 · 13 answers · asked by badassgirl-1 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
good question... and while you look at the answers, i think you know that you are not gonna have anyone really answer that... as much as you can find out for yourself :)
there is a more important question here before we come to your question... "What is love?"... once you define that for yourself, the answer will be easy.
If your bf not abusing u ever in the relationship is love, then this is it. If the bf caring you forever is love, then you can only wait till forever to find out...etc etc
Lemme give you an easier way out of this........ Do you love him??.. if yes, then in reality you should continue to do that even if he does not reciprocate.... that is totally unselfish love. And once you do that, it will be easy.... as you will not be asking that question....
the mantra - love always, and dont expect anything in return. and ur life will always be filled with love.
wish u all the love... and luck :)
cheers
2006-12-22 08:05:18 · answer #1 · answered by KingAnswer 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You are only 14, and I know you don't realize this now but you are WAY TOO young to be talking about being in love with someone! It hurts me to hear you have been in an abusive relationship, because when you are that young there should be no such thing. You think you are old enough, and mature enough to handle what comes along with it. I wish I could say he really loves you but if you ask me, he is too young to know what that is too. Just go with the flow, and if it doesn't work out then dont fret over it too much. There will be plenty of time for love in your future. I know I sound like a nagging mom, but I am only 20 and have been through it all. It isn't worth it. Enjoy your teenage life.
2006-12-22 16:00:12 · answer #2 · answered by msapplebottomculo 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
hey.
i know how u feel. i am also 14 with a 15 year old boyfriend and he also says he loves me and we havent kissed. ok well heres what i think. just because he hasnt kissed u doesnt mean he doesnt love you. when he says its different with you it could very well mean that he hasnt ever loved anyone before and that he wants to do completely right by you. also does he show you he loves you, with the his actions and thoughtfulness. love is shown more by actions than by words. so if you want to know if he really loves you than watch his actions toward you, how he treats you, and if he respects you. thats what im doing with my boyfriend and ive come to find out he really does love me.
2006-12-22 16:02:10 · answer #3 · answered by rachi 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
WOW for starters. Love is something so powerful it is just unexplainable. But the one thing that I can explain is that love doesn't hurt you by words or by hands. Love is known and felt without a shadow of dought. Love makes you feel comfortable with a person free to be you and free to experience all good things without putting you in a compromising position. Sometimes when you love someone you really want to respect them so that you don't push them away. See honey he might not want to kiss you because he doesn't want to be intimate to soon. With boys that age their hormones are crazy and with one kiss it might take things to another level in which he might not be ready for. You either for that matter. So take your time. I know you probably hear that a lot but just get to know him and let him get to know you. because the only true way to love someone is through getting to know them. Conversation and sharing experiences together.You really should try to get to know personal things about him bad or good. Get him to share things with you that he hasn't told anyone. Show him that he can trust you with his personal feelings. Be his best friend. And honey trust me if your his best friend he is going to depend on yo for that ear and shoulder. So Good luck and take your time before you use the l word and let him know that if you don't Love me yet that's ok cause we can work on it.....
2006-12-22 16:17:17 · answer #4 · answered by LA LA 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Good Lord Sweetie...you're only 14 and you've already been in abusive relationships? I think you need to be more careful about who you see. I think it's well and good that he hasn't kissed you yet, for as you know, kissing is likely to eventually lead to well, you know...something you don't need to be doing at your young age. He is probably aware of this as well, and maybe it shows he actually has some respect for you. Please respect yourself too, and remember that you are far too young to have to worry about relationships at this point in time.
2006-12-22 16:03:46 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Find out what love really means before you accept this term from a 15 yr old
2006-12-22 15:58:15 · answer #6 · answered by Bobby D 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he's either the REALLY shy guy, or he's scared of somethingelse. Ask him if he's ever kissed a girl before, or how long he waited to kiss his last girl. I don't know if that will work, but it's worth a try, and if that doesn't work, just ask him why.
2006-12-22 16:01:11 · answer #7 · answered by shai brian 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you gotta wait longer than a month to be asking yourself these questions. and i think he should have probably kissed you already.
2006-12-22 15:58:34 · answer #8 · answered by mareena_nin 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
kiss him and find out
2006-12-22 15:59:50 · answer #9 · answered by highvolt000 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
see if you can come up with a test to see if he loves you or not.
2006-12-22 15:58:44 · answer #10 · answered by Jennifer K 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋