We are engaged to be married, and I think he knows very little about this... I wanted to tell him some stuff about it. Is this inappropriate?
2006-12-22 07:52:44 · 34 answers · asked by reba 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
No, I am newly married and highly suggest discussing all aspects of life including sex. You should discuss everything from how big of a family you want, to how soon you want a family, and what type of contraception you will use.
In your relationship you need to be able to discuss everything otherwise the little things can bring you down.
2006-12-22 07:58:30 · answer #1 · answered by MTPG_26 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Hello Dear =)
There seems to be some sort of prevailing myth about Christianity and Sexuality being mutually exclusive.
That is not at all the case.
Only fools would not address these issues before marriage. After all, it would be a dreadful thing to have a marriage end because of them, out of complete misunderstandings. Your Christian God would not be very happy about that, now would he??
I say it that way, because I am a Buddhist, not because I look down upon Christians in any way......
I think you should discuss these issues, and any others that come to mind, long before you become married, to avoid any misunderstandings that could possibly end in divorce. You will both be much happier for it.
Contraception is not against any New Testament commands. While I agree that the destruction of human life is a bad thing, under most circumstances, the prevention of new life is not necessarily so. Anyone who paints broad-stroked opinions of what the CHRISTIAN standpoint is on these things, is a narrow-minded fool.
Namaste,
--Tom
2006-12-22 07:58:18 · answer #2 · answered by glassnegman 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you both are obstaining from having sex because you want your relationship to be pleasing to the Lord, then talking about sex to the point of arousal could be treading on Temptation Grounds. But having a mature conversation about how each feels about this sexual freedom around you, what you want in a mar[tal relationship and what sex, like money, is doing to corrupt the human race. Talking about serious issues like these is wise, not wrong. My husband and I infrequently discuss the sexual addiction around us and how the many types of contraceptions on the market have not helped against STD and unplanned pregnancies. Believe me, God's way is the best wrong. Go to the Christian book store and find good books on the subject. Dont be embarassed to ask the store clerk for assistant in your search. Two good authors on this subject that come to mind is Garry Smalley and Tony Evans. There are quite a few Christian books on premarriage counseling to help broaden you expectives on many other important issues that's important to discuss and be honest about before marriage.
2006-12-22 20:08:04 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If it was just your boyfriend I don't think it appropriate, but the fact that you are engaged counts for something. Things like how many children you each want, when you want to start a family, what type of birth control you want to use, etc. are things best discussed beforehand. It is better to go into marriage with reasonable expectations, then to be blindsided after the wedding.
2006-12-22 08:09:45 · answer #4 · answered by SUSAN N 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The topic is one you SHOULD discuss. Christian or not. FYI it is Catholics that do not believe in Birth Control. Abortion and Birth Control are two totally different things. The pill tricks your body into thinking you are pregnant so that it doesn't not produce an egg. Abortion is the process of terminating an already existing pregnancy. You may already know this, but at least one of your answerers did not, or chose to ignore the facts. Anyway, back to the topic at hand, you are being very responsible about this, and I say kudos to you and your fiance.
2006-12-22 08:14:50 · answer #5 · answered by Amanda D 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you can't talk about sex and contraception, then I don't think you are old enough to get married (unless I'm really living in the 1800s and this is all a dream).
2006-12-22 09:40:18 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
It is very appropriate to discuss and plan in that area of married life before the wedding. God created sex for the enjoyment of a husband and wife and planning for it is good. Acting on it before marriage.... well, you know that that is out of bounds.
Go to a Christian book store and look into some titles on this very topic.
2006-12-22 08:08:45 · answer #7 · answered by Bob T 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is very appropriate to discuss sex and contraception. It shows responsibility from the both of you.
Talking about your current situation and plans for the future is a good thing, it clears up any misconceptions later.
2006-12-22 07:58:55 · answer #8 · answered by timberleigh 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Why would it be inappropriate? It's intelligent to plan for it. Besides, you're engaged to be married.
2006-12-22 08:02:49 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I dont think so...if you're engaged and going to wed this is something that should be discussed before it happens.Making sure both of you know whats going to happen when you reach the next level and what precautions to take
2006-12-22 07:56:48 · answer #10 · answered by Chelbsy 1 · 3⤊ 0⤋