I love this guy sooooo much!!!!!!!!! but i dont think he loves me back!!!!!!!!! we've been friends for a long time and dated on and off!!!!!!!! rite now we're not dating!!!! but i think he's the one!!!!!!! i dont want to give it up that easy!!!!!!! i love him!!!!!!!!
2006-12-22 07:41:53 · 23 answers · asked by shly_dowell 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I've already told him that i like him more than a friend but rite now were friends wit benefits!!!! it seems like he only wants someone to make out wit though and i want more than that!!!!!!
2006-12-22 07:49:42 · update #1
my feelings for him have almost been for 4-5 months!! its been a long time!!!!
2006-12-22 08:16:45 · update #2
All you can really do is wait. Time will tell what will happen between you two. You can't make him love you back (As horrible as that sounds). Don't give up, but wait. Slip some subtle signs. But don't push it. Pushing things could drive him away. Good luck!
2006-12-22 07:44:42 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Babycakes, love is a two way street. Unless you want to keep him tied up in your basement..?..there are two ways you could handel this:
1) Talk to him about it, don't mention love, but be an adult and see if he feels the same. If he doesn't, then there are plenty of guys out there, stop being lazy and go find another.
2) Make him jealous. Go out with another guy, act excited about the other guy when you talk to "Mr. Right" and tell him you had a great time and you're going out again. See? The prospect of losing the security that your relationship provides him may force him to act. Guys have no problem with dating a few girls at the same time. Show him he can't do that with you and you may win his heart.
2006-12-22 07:51:00 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
how long is a long time? infatuation lasts for a month. It's a brain chemistry thing...the endorphans that make you feel in love only last for a month (30 days give or take). This is what makes love blind. Now if you still love the guy after the first month, then it could be true love. I personally believe that "true" love is mutual. If all he wants is the "benefits" then i would consider looking elsewhere cause you will be crushed once he's found someone else.
2006-12-22 07:57:42 · answer #3 · answered by slimeslayer 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The best thing you can do is to ignore him for exactly 6 months. No phone calls, no messages, no emails, nothing. Date other people, discover other kind of love (I am pretty sure in your case it's a lot of attraction), grow, get better.. You must be a really great person, use all you got to move on.
What do you do after this 6 months? Call him and tell him directly you would like to meet him. Based on what will happen in that meeting you'll know what you have to do.
2006-12-22 07:58:00 · answer #4 · answered by Ela 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Since you've already told him and he's not giving you an answer that you expected, I think you should really move on. You want commitment and yet he doesn't. Even if you did win his heart, I doubt how long this relationship is going to last. As you are the one who loves him more and the one who wants commitment, you are just going to get hurt! So, take the courage to find another guy! If you aren't determined enough to do so, you are just going to make yourself unhappy and you may turn a blind eye to those who love you.
2006-12-22 07:59:12 · answer #5 · answered by durian 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Easy, just tell him.
If he opens up and says he has been wanting to tell you all along then all is good.
If he does not respond, then you will know that the relationship is over.
Either way you are going to have to find out.
Simply ask him, how he feels about you, and what does he think the future holds for the both of you together.
2006-12-22 07:45:37 · answer #6 · answered by David G 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Move on with your life. Either he loves you or he doesn't. If he does love you, then maybe if you start living your life instead of pining after him, he will realize how much he loves you. Absence makes the heart grow fonder. If he doesn't love you, then at least you won't have wasted any more time on him and you will have the opportunity to find someone who will love you.
2006-12-22 07:57:50 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let him go. Find new friends. I've gone through unrequited love lots of times and the best thing to come out of it was that I moved on with my life by finding somebody who returned my love.
2006-12-22 07:45:11 · answer #8 · answered by Jo K 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your best of just severing the tie. It hurts, but you can get on with your life...The more you try to make him love you the more he will resist. Or, back off and ignore him, that always makes them like you better for some reason.
2006-12-22 07:45:13 · answer #9 · answered by Tracerd 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't make someone love you. Are you guys friends? Work on the friendship. If there is love it will come on his part in time.
2006-12-22 07:44:58 · answer #10 · answered by stringhead3 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋