There is this great guy that I have always cared about and at one time I thought I loved. He has loved me with all of his heart for over 15 years and has asked me to marry him. It would be a good life, but should I settle in a relationship that would not have equal feelings? Is it possible for there to be a 50/50 give and take kind of love?
2006-12-22 07:39:30 · 17 answers · asked by jlynna10 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
If you don't love him like you once use to, then be fair to him and cut him loose so that he may someday find someone who loves him as equally as he loves them. If you do not feel the same its also not fair to you to settle. When you settle things never work out, as time passes you start to resent each other. Good luck to you.
2006-12-22 07:43:46 · answer #1 · answered by Issym 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
1st off there is no 50/50 in a marriage. Sometimes you have to put more into the relationship, sometimes he does. so it could be 70/30, 90/10, or 60/40. It depends. My question is why don't you have feelings for this great guy? If he really is great then you either think he is to good for you or the other way around. But you may be in the same category as my sister-in-law and you end up dating/marrying guys with issues. They cheat, steal, lie, etc. But for some reason, you think that they will change for you. if thats the case, it is time to grow up if not, then your inferiority complex will let you lose something wonderful, for which you will always regret with your last breath.
2006-12-22 07:46:06 · answer #2 · answered by raiderking69 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should only marry him if he loves you and you love him back. Marrying someone for other reasons is really dumb not saying you are just that choice is. Two people getting married for anyother reason then love isn't a good idea. If you aren't in love with him and he's not with you then you shouldn't be marrying him. It's better to be alone then marry someone you don't love or they don't love you back and then wind up having to divorce. Love is what keeps marriage alive and that is the only reason why two people should get married.
2006-12-22 07:44:00 · answer #3 · answered by Irish Girl 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No! Relationships do not work 50/50. It has to be 100/100. One or both of you, at sometime, are bound not to give your all. Giving 100% covers you in the lean "seasons".
2006-12-22 07:43:55 · answer #4 · answered by Bobby D 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, why don't you Love him? I hope it's nothing like "he don't look like Brad Pitt, etc."
Sounds like you're missing out. Life is only so long, then we die.
Have a good inner talk with yourself and get with him or find someone else, tell him to stop wasting his life on you. Life's too short for this messing around. Oops, already told you that.
2006-12-22 07:46:15 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, if he's loved you forever then he must REALLY do care and REALLY do love you!! he might be like 70/30(him the 70) he might be your soul mate. he's gone through 15 YEARS just to tell you if you wann a marry him. GO AHEAD!!
this is YOUR decision actually. NOT ours... listen 2 ur HEART. real deep inside your heart. what do YOU think??
2006-12-22 07:43:54 · answer #6 · answered by [[♥]] 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As long as you both have the same ideas of what marriage is. Make sure you ask him what he expects from a wife and tell him what you would expect from a hubby. If it doesn't add up, it's not the right fit for marriage.
2006-12-23 01:13:53 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, certainly. But I have a question, have you ever really gave someone a real chance to get to know you really well and opened up yourself and allowed yourself to love someone?
You may have found the right one and just don't know it.
2006-12-22 07:43:39 · answer #8 · answered by Wondrin Dude 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No.
You shouldn't settle. If you do, it may last for a while, but then you'll tire of the whole thing. Wait for the right one to come along.
2006-12-22 07:42:09 · answer #9 · answered by Paul 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i say if you love him and he loves you and you are completely sure of it, then just say yes, it doesnt matter if its 50/50 cuz you will argue about who loves who more and in ur heart you know it is actually even.
2006-12-22 07:44:29 · answer #10 · answered by sexyg0pher770 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋