I'm 14 and i have recently moved into a new house (about 2 months ago). I have ended up with a room which is totally (i wont swear but it's that bad.) It is a half wood panelled room with old lights and furniture and it doesn't even have a door. I am forced to live in this room because no-one else in my family wants it and the only person who does isn't allowed (my dad) to have it because they smoke. I really hate this room and my parents don't allow me to decorate it or even put up posters. I want to decorate it but every time i pop the question i get in trouble for "acting like i own the house."
How can i get my parents to give in and let me decorate my room so i can have my own sanctuary?
P.S. I dont want any insults i keep getting comments i can't make sense, i know i can't but please stop insulting me about it.
2006-12-22 07:23:20 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
I know how you must feel and I would ask my parents in a respectful way, why can't you decorate then accept the fact that you don't pay rent and still have a place to sleep for free and food you don't have to pay for. Try thinking on other things you can do such as watch TV or listen to music, go for bike rides with your friends, focus on your homework more so you can get scholarships and go to college and get a good job so you can eventually buy your own house and put whatever you want on your walls. Four more years and you're outta there! Try not to allow the fact you can't decorate your walls or how much you hate your room become a wedge between you and your parents, it's not worth it! They still have to buy you a car or pay for whatever it is you are going to need for awhile. Keep 'em ready to do that and accept the fact that whether or not you like them you are going to have rules that you really do not think is fair for the rest of your life! Wait till you find out you can only go 65 mph in your 8 cylinder truck...I hate that! But those tickets are getting expensive.
2006-12-22 07:27:35 · answer #1 · answered by MeHurdu 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Firstly why dont you think yourself lucky you have a room at all there are millions of people who havent even got a roof never mind a wood pannelled room.
Secondly maybe your parents are completely skint
Thirdly perhaps they are planning a surprise redecoration for you?
However apart from remembering how lucky you really are the best way to convince them is to print out all these answers show it to them and when they see that the majority of people believe you are entitled to at least have a few posters up maybe they will realise how victorian they are being? Oh and at 14 you should definitely have a door whaTS the point of being a teenager if you cant slam doors in your own room or maybe thats why you havent got one!
My daughter has no door on her bedroom but that is purely because we cant afford to get her one at the moment she is 5 and after xmas we will buy her a door and fit it perhaps that is your parents plan?
2006-12-23 10:21:23 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Moving house is traumatic and also very expensive. Maybe your parents haven't got the cash available for decorating at the moment and have more urgent priorities. Like eating for instance or Christmas. Maybe they've just had enough of it all and aren't thinking straight yet.
Keep quiet and stick it out for a while. Maybe they'll be more approachable later on if you stop going on at them and give them breathing space.
If you make no headway with them in a couple of months what about shock tactics? Apply to every tv room makeover show you can find on the net. The tv companies pay for the decorating and you might hit lucky.
http://www.pietown.tv/shows/doadclientreqs.html
http://www.rd.com/content/openContent.do?contentId=15091
2006-12-22 11:12:24 · answer #3 · answered by chickpea 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OH DEAR , A room without a door, okay you don´t like the room to start with , but no door, ask them when your having your Christmas lunch, Do you think my room would look nice painted , blue? or maybe Green . " what do you think mum"? Then wait for the answer, if it´s an answer you don´t want to hear , ask your dad the same question, wait for the answer, again if it´s not the answer you want to hear, & they say no chance, , ask then , is it better for me to sleep in the shed outside at least it has a door, tell them , how can I invite any of my friend´s here, what would they tell there parent´s, You don´t want to own the house, you just want your own little room , Maybe you should have ask for a new door for Christmas, sorry not making fun , Hope you can get your wish , Merry Christmas
2006-12-22 09:13:16 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
hi sweetheart, at 14 you have some rights to your own individual style, as long as its not too way out as obv it is your families home too. Lets presume you are responsible and not a naughty 14 year old all the time, then why not sit down and reason with them that to make you feel at home and to help you settle into the new family home its important that you put your stamp on it, remind your mum and dad what they were like at 14 were they allowed a bit of their own taste in their rooms. Tell them you will put posters up with blue tac not pins, (pins annoy parents lol). point out you respect them, can they give you a bit of responsibility in return. Hope it goes well hun xx
2006-12-22 07:30:04 · answer #5 · answered by suzie1968uk 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
your parents are trying to control your life, and they can't do that. i hope they don't try to control who you're friends with too. that's just wrong. um just tell them that, 'hey, i may not own the house, but c'mon i don't even get a door.'
why can't you see if one of the others can take? i hate it when i hear stories about the parents dumping everything on the youngest. my friend nathan is the younges and everytime that they moved since 2001 they give him the tinyest room possible. why? becuz they don't want to offend his older siblings. well my friend nathan has talked to me about it and it does offend him. especially since he found out that his bedroom is actually more of a walk-in closet. you enter it from the hallway and not a room but that is just dumping everything on the youngest.
2006-12-22 07:59:30 · answer #6 · answered by Christ Follower 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell your parents that you need your own space and want to invite your girlfriend or boyfriend to your room. Once they say no, ask them "can i at least decorate it" and they'll say yes if they are reasonable. Easy really!
2006-12-22 07:41:53 · answer #7 · answered by Hick K 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just tell them you want it decorating and you will help them do it...make it your own and get a new door put up
2006-12-22 08:25:12 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think your mam and dad are being very unfairer to you i have 3 children and they all have their rooms the way they want them. how would your mam and dad like it. it is your house to. try and tell them how you feel .at your age you should have a door on your room. i feel very sorry for you. x
2006-12-22 07:32:58 · answer #9 · answered by debbie 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ask them what they think about you doing up your room it maybe that money is tight at the moment and this could be the reason that they don't want u to change it and explain to the sensibly that you need your privacy at your age. remember you get the things you want if you ask and not demand
2006-12-22 07:30:02 · answer #10 · answered by julie t 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋