Trying to understand me and my ex. Why would she cry? and she was the one that ended this?

Question

After 2 mounths of going back and forth w my ex we keep on talking to each other. I still love her. She says she doent want to think about us like that anymore n doesnt want to try and work things out. Last night i called her. We kept talking till i sliped i was planig on proposing to her in june she was shocked "Wow" and "oh my god" was all she could say. I kept talking n well it lead me to cry and then she started 2 cry. Why would she cry she is the one that dumped me and i am the one pursuing this. All i want from her to think about all of this. The relationship lasted 4 yrs n we both always talked about kids n marrige. The break up came from nowhere only that she felt no romantic connection. I always gave her 100% i gave up parts of my life to be with her. I always told her how i felt and now this. Niether of us can stop calling one another. my only question is why would she cry over this, if this is what she wanted? I sent her a email telling, i will leave her be as best as i can.

there is now one ealse i know that for a fact and i sent her an email telling her i am not making this better so i am going to try and leave her be. Is this it? or can i expect this to go on? What can i expect?

i am allittle confuse how do i go by this

Answer 1

She cries because she has regrets, not because she thinks she made a mistake. Whenever a long-term relationship ends, it's sad ... And especially sad when neither party can do anything about it no matter how hard they try. Cry it out of your system, hope she cries it out of hers, and don't use each other as a shield against new experiences. You'll both be fine eventually. Good luck.

Answer 2

This is why i gave up on 'dating'.

I just hit it and quit it.

These females love drama. You know how you might love football or whatever your sports/hobby passion is, and you need that 'fix' of it, well females actually NEED a fix of drama every so many months or a year. There is something in them that guides them to f up a relationship by destroying it and watching you desperately try to put it back together and "win" them back.

I made the decision that it j aint worth it anymore.

PS. the only way to stop it is to do what i did ..or.. get financially secure quick while getting her to have your baby fast. Then she is secure enough and tied down enough not to need the drama.

Answer 3

Just because we females do the break up doesn't mean that we won't cry over it. It must of hurt her to do it since she loves you. Just because she broke up with you doesn't mean that she won't cry over it since it proably really hurted her. If you and her are meant to be you'll get back together. 4 years is a long time and that's how long my husband and I've been married. Just give her sometime and space and see how she feels after that. But that's why she was crying after she broke up with you. It must of really hurt her to do it and she didn't want to but she had a reason.Maybe when you told her you were going to propose scared her and she couldn't take it. Did she explain why she broke up with you? Just remeber that just because she broke up with you doesn't mean that it didn't hurt her and she won't cry over it.