help meeee?

Question

ok. so i got a really nice, funny, cute boyfriend, and i really really like him. but there's only one problem . . .




my parents.


he's mexican and my parents always make fun of me because "im dating a mexican"

i never really saw him in that kind of way, i just really like him and skin color or where you're from doesn't really matter to me.

also, a couple of my friends are doing the same thing. is there anyone in this world who doesn't care about skin color or where you're from besides me???

what should i do? should i talk to them? and if i shuld, what should i say???


it really bothers me.



help . . .

Answer 1

there is always gonna be people who will challenge your life style.as long as you like him the skin color or ethnicity doesn't matter.if you like him and respect him then don't let people give you hard time.be confident and keep your head up!

Answer 2

you have to just follow your heart- your parents come from a different generation and have somewhat different points of view- but the truth is that you have to decide if this guy is really worth all the hassle-- you will be judged everywhere you go because of your choice-- if that is something you want to add to life's problems then go for it it's your life-- ironically you probally like him more because you know your parents disapprove--all of there concern backfired ! any way you go you will find that some stereo types are true some are not-- it is a different culture-- you may find that someone of your own race is just as cute and funny minus the hassle --- but it is not like your getting married try it for a while and see if it is something you want to deal with all your life--cute and funny is not true love and when you feel it for real it won't matter if they were purple-- if you do things for the right reasons they seem to work out better then if you just take a defensive stance-- personally i would not want to deal with the hassle then again i have never dated outside my race-- not because i didn't want to just because the opportunity never arose-- i have met mexican men that are very controlling and abusive and some that are nice-- u never know---good luck

Answer 3

Hunny, don't get yourself worked up over this. I would talk to them about it. And heres what you need to say, you need to (in a firm voice) say, He is a person, he feels like you, he laughs like you, he sees like you, and if you cut him, he bleeds red, just like you do. skin color doesnt make a difference, what makes the difference is your personality, and how strong-willed you are as a person. And ask your parents, is this how you were brought up to be, a racist? and if so, do you really want to raise ME that way? well you can't I like who i like, and i date who i date, you've got no say in this, its me, because in the end you're not going to marry the person im going to marry, your not going to date the person im going to date, its me. and only me. so if you have an issue with him, talk it over with someone else, and leave me out of it.

and dont let them get a word in, just walk away after that.

hope this works and i hope i helped.

and i too think that this racist deal is complete bull ****


~Amarie

Answer 4

pleeeeaase, talk to your parents and friends. ask them why they feel or act like that towards this guy. but, have him there with you. it's only fair that if the're talking behind his back, he should know this. your parents and friends are wrong for doing this. your boyfriend has the right to know.
unfortunately, color or other differences should not matter, but, realistically it does. and friends and family show this by their behavior. on the flip side, when all chips are down and you and your guy break up, friends and family are the ones' there to pick up the pieces.

Answer 5

Are you a religious person? If so, what are your beliefs as far as the dating goes. Go with what you believe to be the best given your religious views. If your not religious then I guess you just do what you feel is good for you and tell the others to p i s s off.

Answer 6

Well....let them know that your uncomfortable of the things they say...bcuz, what if one day he finds out that your parents & friends been making fun of him. That would really make you uncomfortable around him & think differently about you. I know you don't want to come down to choose between him or your family & friends...but... be honest with everyone, even him. I hope the best and smile it's free!! :-)

Answer 7

if you like him as mmuch as you have said then tell your feind to stop making fun of him.
If you really like this shouldbe no problem.


tell your friends this
I think it's wrong to judg people by the way they look or there skin color. It's not there fault that they have that color skin...


stand up for what is right. stand up for him

Answer 8

Tell your parents that your sorry your not racist like them, and that u really like him and ur gonna out with him whether by their will or not. Tell your friends to shut the #$#$ up and to mind their own business, its your life and not theirs and u can do w/e the f*** u want!!

does that work?

Answer 9

the color of someones skin does not matter one bit, how would you feel if your boyfriend told you that he didn't like you or his parents didn't like you because you are while. totally ignore it. people like that just don't understand

Answer 10

i think that if they are going to make fun of your boyfriend, they arnt worth talking to about it. You shouldnt care what anyone else thinks about your boyfriend.