think he is too young...my brother said I am being too oldfashion, and because he already has a girlfriend, what harm will a poster do?
Am I being too old fashion? I know my son has a gf, but I dont want to encourage anything more....
2006-12-22 07:01:12 · 10 answers · asked by Mommy Dearest 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
No you aren't being old-fashioned - you're being smart. If your son had asked your brother to get him those posters, that would be one thing, but to have someone giving them to him could be seen as pressure from his uncle to get laid.
Tell your brother that if your son wants to get those kinds of posters, he can, but that you'd rather he didn't do it for your son. Point out that different people find different things attractive, and what he likes might not be what your son would like. If he still wants to get your son some posters, suggest either a gift certificate to someplace that has a lot of posters or a shopping trip where your son can pick the posters and your brother will pick up the bill.
2006-12-22 07:09:20 · answer #1 · answered by triviatm 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Your brother is a pervert. He is too young and even though he has a girlfriend, that is DEFINITELY something you wouldn't give your son that you love dearly as a Christmas present. That's like giving a little girl "Mandingo" posters, very inappropriate. If you want him to be exposed to that sort of thing, then be prepared for his curiosity. You are not old fashioned, you're just being a good parent. Just be careful, boys that age can be very influential.
2006-12-22 07:12:08 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
My personal thoughts are that at that age, your son is already thinking about it whether you want him to or not. Those hormones just can't be shut up that easily! He is probably looking at girlie pix anyway - his friends' or his friends' father's or brother's or online somewhere, or maybe even looking at your brother's personal stash. I, personally, would rather know what my son was looking at and where and would prefer to have him doing it at home, rather than doing who knows what, with who or where. The best way to do that is to not make it a big deal, so that he will feel comfortable talking about it with you. And maybe, if he had a girlie poster or two at home to give him inspiration to "relieve" himself to, he won't be so wound up he'll be wanting to try to get "relief" with his real-life girlfriend. Bottom line: relax, Mom. Your little boy is growing up.
2006-12-22 07:08:35 · answer #3 · answered by Poopy 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
as a mom myself, i know how u feel. but luv, let him go ahead. if u show you care about him, that's one thing, but come on. being too protective is worse for guys than girls. if he has a gf, they have probably already talked about "it" anyway. i found out my now 26 year old first did it at 16, when I thought totally different! A poster will be good 4 him, if he's into that. plus-he's the one having sex. his time. his place. his girl. his u know... I know all that seems hard cuz ir's ur son, but just think about how annoyed u got with ur parents at that age, and i promise it will be easier. merry x-mas. : )
2006-12-22 07:46:09 · answer #4 · answered by jordpr_93 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell your brother you are your son's parent not him and you have the say so as to what is acceptable and what isn't. If he does give your son these posters, you will give the posters back to him in tiny little pieces.
2006-12-22 08:14:45 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
No you aren't being old fashioned. Just simply tell your brother that those types of posters degrade women and give your son the impression that women are mere objects. Tell him that you are raising your son to respect women and would appreciate if he would support your decision because it's hard to do in this day and age.
2006-12-22 07:05:37 · answer #6 · answered by Hollynfaith 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
he is 15, you have noo idea of what a 15 year old male is exposed to. Let him get the posters they are tame compared to other real life scenarios
2006-12-22 07:05:53 · answer #7 · answered by breastfed43 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If the women in the posters are fully clothed then I see nothing wrong with it.
2006-12-22 07:03:52 · answer #8 · answered by Clara 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes you are, if you think he is still a virgin and hasn't seen it already (ok probably the posters are a lot better looking than his gf) you are living in denial.
Chances are he has been getting his knob sucked for at least a year or two now. He has probably been having sex for at least as long as he has had his girlfriend.
Its ok though, because he is a boy as long as he is carefull and wears protection there is nothing wrong with it.
EDIT: naked pictures of women don't degrade them, they EMPOWER women. Only ugly and fat cows who look at the posters and naked women as competition think it degrades women when in reality it degrades the person disapproving because they are ugly and jealous. Why should the rest of humanity be kept prisoner to your uglyness?
2006-12-22 07:07:43 · answer #9 · answered by bluto blutarsky2 3 · 0⤊ 3⤋
i agree with you...i dont think that boys should not be taught to look at girls like that and that they should like them for whats on the inside
2006-12-22 07:04:16 · answer #10 · answered by lilly s 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋