Ok .. I really, really like my new boyfriend but all of a sudden he just started pulling away from me and being kind of a jerk and i don't understand why. I think it has something to do with him thinking I still have feelings for my ex , but I dont at all.I also think we rushed into the whole relationship thing instead of becoming friends first .So how do i fix my relationship before its too late ?
2006-12-22 06:38:01 · 9 answers · asked by punky_girl42768 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Well it depends on what exactly happened to make him think that you still have feelings for your exbf. People usually just don't get negative impressions from nothing. If something did occur, whether it was something you said, or some kind of body language or even something you did, he probably feels invaded. Or he more than likely just pulling himself away from you because he figures why waste his time on someone who's not over the past and can't give 100% to the future. No person wants to enter a relationship with competition they feel they can't compete with. So ask him, "What makes you think I'm still in love with my ex?" Then just tell him how you really feel. Tell him who you're really in love with. Don't mention your exbf after that, if possible because you are suppose to be completely over him. Because if you ever talk about him, your boyfriend will get the impression that he is still on your mind.
The truth is, that you don't always have to be friends first, but it can help you to know the person as other people see him. Because love can be blinding and you don't always want to see what others can see.
Almost every relationship can be saved. All you need are two people who love each other and are willing to try. Just tell him that some wrong impressions were made and you would like to start over because you think this relationship is worth a second chance.
Good Luck!
2006-12-22 06:56:50 · answer #1 · answered by Amanda 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well buddy in most likelihood u have been taken for a royal ride. Why was she interested in u when she was already married in the first place? she just wanted to have some extra fun may be. I am sure she must have said things like ur soulmates and all to convince u that she loved u. may be she was just lusting for u and once she has had her fun, she is finding faults with ur behaviour. the fact that u started treating her as ur better half must have caused her to develop cold feet cuz she can marry u only by divorcing the husband who is married to and she apparently is not ready to do it. She might no more be interested in two timing as she has been doing so far. Just ask urself if u did not show enough interest in her inthe early phase, why did she go all this way with u? This friend thing that she says now she wants, is also a pure gimmick to keep ur mouth shut. Better drop her like a hot coal, not even a hot potato. U never know someday she might say u tried to molest her and open the doors of prison for you. So move away as soon as u can in ur own interest and find some nice gal, marry her and settle down with her. Of course u can thank ur stars for the royal ride u were taken to and u got some fun inthe bargain. Good luck
2016-03-13 09:51:17 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No one can fix arelationship.If people would understand that because you want something to work dosen't mean it will.Relationships do require a certain amount of effort from two people.If one person is working hard to make it work there is definitly something wronge.Don't be afraid when this happens to just let go.You may find someone you will not have to work to happy with.
2006-12-22 06:44:22 · answer #3 · answered by upforitupforitupforitupforitru 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I agree with the others about sounding desperate. Just try to calm down. Let him have his space. I know it is hard for you, If you seem too eager, guys get turned off. Give him a little mystery! If he thinks he has you in the bag. He may be getting a little bored.
2006-12-22 07:32:26 · answer #4 · answered by Peepers 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Communication is the key to a relationship. Men have a problem showing how they feel so encourage him to talk about. Plan a dinner and you spark up the conversation, sometines if we talk first and say whats on our mind then its easier for them to talk about it. Good luck don't give up work at if you want the relationship.
2006-12-22 06:48:03 · answer #5 · answered by Mom of 3 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Believe me it is just an infatuation . U don't love him,take this fact from me. U are a changable type . To u all these are small erands where they are ur means of pleasure only NOT UR LIFE PARTNER. Try to improve ur charecter.
2006-12-22 06:46:08 · answer #6 · answered by anneshan04 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i can't say for sure what's his problem. it sounds like he's tried of you. if that's the case, then let him go. there is no point of saving any relationship if he's not happy with it at all. baby girl, there are tons of guys out there for you. find the right one.
2006-12-22 06:44:19 · answer #7 · answered by harmony 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
please relax first of all..it sounds like a little spat before the holidays..
and definitely trust issues
we all have xes and think of them sometimes it is normal tell him
yes sounds like you may have rushed in..
tell him you and him are at beginning stages..of love if you cant even get through Christmas because of him thinking you still have feelings for X..maybe its "red flag" keep him as friend for now!!!
one more thing ...hmm "his space has been invaded?" ...NOT...
you guys at "the preliminarys of the relationship" why?..is it up to you to worry about whether his space invaded...???
why? is he insecure is the question?
whats his problem anyways whats he doing behind your back?..remember the person questioning your motives ..is the one I'd worry about !!!..not just because ..he happens to think u miss your X ? its a ridicoulus fight anyhow!!...tell him get a "clue"...hes the one your with..!!!...if these little insecurities keep up you will have to dump him..
the red flag is always right!!!...
my thoughts
2006-12-22 06:39:59 · answer #8 · answered by dreamy 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
don't rush....you're sounding desperate....that will drive away any man
2006-12-22 06:44:35 · answer #9 · answered by southern belle 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ask him exacly what you just asked us.
2006-12-22 06:41:00 · answer #10 · answered by Junior1544 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋