My 21 year old sister is pregnant. She isn't married and still lives with my mom. I am very worried because she is the biggest spolied brat you have ever seen and my mom is just making it worse now. My sister have been taking off work because of the baby. I asked my mom who works her butt off is she was helpping her around the house and she said, "No, but I wont let her, she doesn't need to be lifting clothes baskets and stuff, she might hurt herself." Well, I'm really worried that as lazy as my sister is, it's going to get worse after the baby comes. That my mom will be stuck raising this kid. My mom is old and would not make it threw raising another kid. But every time I say something to my sister she just starts yelling and if I say something to my mom, she gets mad. How can I help them and make sure my sister doesn't kill my mom without pissing everyone off?
2006-12-22 06:32:21 · 10 answers · asked by warriorchic84 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Not Jealous! Don't care that they still live together! I have a great live and am about to be mairred. I just would like my mom to still be around when I start having children. My sister is slowly killing her by being so lazy. Yes, there is a baby's daddy. He's a really nice guy. But my sister treats him like dirt. I think he will do his best to do his part in the baby's life but he works and can't be there all the time to keep my mom for getting saddled with all the house work and baby care.
2006-12-22 07:00:38 · update #1
wow, im on your side with this one. it wouldnt be fair for your mom to do all the work. i would swing by your moms house a few times a week and help her out with something...maybe dinner, some laudry...etc, because if you keep making your mom and sister mad, then you might look like the bad guy instead of the good person you are. i totally agree with you though. but you dont want to become the enemy. this way your helping your mom since your sister wont and also staying on her good side. your sister will find out how much of an obstacle parenthood is in due time. best wishes!
2006-12-22 06:53:19 · answer #1 · answered by sweetchick21 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It may be hard to do but back off.
But first tell sis that a birth mother is someone who gives birth, a true mother is someone who cares, nutures, provides a roof over their heads and gives them everything from love to clothing, toys, education and a stable future on their own. Help is welcomed and appreciated but should not be demanded or expected.
Tell grandma that your sister needs to look after this new life and to help is admirable but by doing everything for her daughter she will never learn how to become a true mother. Doing too much now will only backfire and her helpfulness will be expected and demanded not requested and thanked.
Tell them that you love them both but you want this baby to have a mother (to look after their baby physically and financially) and a grandmother (who loves to spoil the baby and not raise). If there is an understanding now this baby will be off to a great start.
Tell them that this is what you feel and you hope that they can work something out before the baby arrives because once the baby arrives it will be chaotic, tempers will flare, sparks will fly and tears will flow. Good luck
2006-12-22 15:21:55 · answer #2 · answered by trojan 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's between your mom and your sister, nothing you say will matter!! Hopefully mom comes out of her dream world before it's to late, and your sister has her baby sitting and caring for baby all the time!! But unfortunately, it's between them!! You go about your life and let them have theirs regardless of how disfunctional it is!!
2006-12-22 14:38:26 · answer #3 · answered by mamaexfour 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You pretty much have the answer figured out. If your Mom is willing to help your sister then that is between the two of them. Just because you do not approve is not going to change what she is doing. Go sit in the corner and shut up.
2006-12-22 14:35:25 · answer #4 · answered by IGH3Rat 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
It sounds to me like you have always felt that your sister recieves more attention, care or support than you. Your sister is different than you, and you shouldn't compare yourself to her. I was also told to never compare myself to my brothers and sisters because each one of us is different, in a different situation. Obviously you know your sister needs help. She acts selfish at times, and it frusturates you because if you were in her shoes, you could deal with your problems without running to mom for help. To help your sister become more confident in herself, I would start by encouraging her with words. Support her emotions. Being pregnant isn't easy, and maybe she needs a good support system right now. I hope you understand and good luck to you. Just support her, and she will grow, learn, and become independent.
2006-12-22 14:42:04 · answer #5 · answered by jm 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is time your sister learns a lesson have a talk with become the boss
2006-12-22 14:35:45 · answer #6 · answered by Emy~lou 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Nothing much you can do even you mom has to make that decision and she'll know when she has had enough.
2006-12-22 14:37:58 · answer #7 · answered by bigdandsoni 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
THERE IS NOTHING WRONG WITH A LITTLE EXTRA TLC, BUT IT SOUNDS LIKE U R JELOUS! DOES UR SISTER HAVE A BABY'S DADDY WHO IS INVOLVED?
2006-12-22 14:35:38 · answer #8 · answered by NONE OF UR BIZ!!!!! 3 · 0⤊ 3⤋
just do your best to help. Are you a little jeleous about their relationship?
2006-12-22 14:35:49 · answer #9 · answered by bridgette c 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
ur sis is hot.tell her to see me
2006-12-22 14:35:16 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 5⤋