im 21 years old, and also a bbw. i just currently ended a 3 year relationship with a man that was abusive and now alota my guy friends tell me that they all want to sleep with me. i mean they dont come right out and are like i wanna have sex with you, but its comments they make and the tone they use. and some of them have even come right out and said that they wanted to have sex....but the thing that really gets me is that they want sex and thats it. they dont want to hang out when i ask or anything the only time they come around is when its convient for them and they think there gonna get some and when i turn the down they get mean towards me...it happnes all the time...and im not sure y or what to do or say.....??
2006-12-22 06:28:37 · 17 answers · asked by xxsyn69xx 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Maybe you can turn some of that sexual desire into a romantic relationship, women have learned to do that since the dawn of humans.
2006-12-22 06:31:30 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
What can I say? Guys can suck. You've already noticed the crucial factor- it isn't so much whether or not the guys want to sleep with you- that's a given. The main factor is how they act when you say no. Trust me, there will be guys who really do want to be your friend, and won't turn nasty....but they'll probably want to have you too. Some of these 'friends' aren't worth your time, obviously, but there will be some who are. Honestly, you sound like you already have a good idea what's up. Just be patient with people in general. You'll be fine.
2006-12-22 14:34:19 · answer #2 · answered by niwriffej 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When I was in my early twenties I was pretty obsessed with sex but not to the point where I didn't want other parts of a relationship. I think you don't know how to pick guys. You need to use your brain. Try going to some positive places to meet a guy. Try libraries, college classes, church or any place where you can meet a guy who respects you and wants more than just a booty call. Also hold yourself in high esteem so you know you are worth more than that and deserve to be treated with dignity.
Good luck.
2006-12-22 14:36:21 · answer #3 · answered by Bruce Tzu 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Find some new people to hang around. You have to think...are these guys really your friends? I'm happy to hear you're out of an abusive relationship. You sure don't need that. But these so-called guy friends of yours don't sound any better. I seriously would reconsider those friendships. If you want to meet a nice guy, e-mail me through here and let's chat.
2006-12-22 14:40:48 · answer #4 · answered by BigJake418 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The guys who are mean to you are not your friends. They were waiting around to see if you would sleep with them. Guys are like that. I know it is SO frustrating! Don't feel pressure to sleep with anyone for any reason. Tell him you don't do booty calls. You have too much respect for yourself.
2006-12-22 14:33:15 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You hang around a class of idiots. Thats why.
Get back into school and start associating with people who have goals.
2006-12-22 14:31:56 · answer #6 · answered by Peter X. Long 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some guys your age aren't looking for anything but sex. They need to grow up. If I was you I would find me some other friends.
2006-12-22 14:32:47 · answer #7 · answered by fiestylady 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe it's because we allow people to treat us in a certain way and the only way to change that is to change the way we act around others? have you thought about maybe you are giving off signals you are unaware of? if not then tell them no and who cares if they get mad or mean or whatever...that's their problem, not yours
2006-12-22 14:33:12 · answer #8 · answered by Tek ~aka~Legs! 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Woof, Woof. That's yes, yes, in Dog language. Pinkestkitten21.
2006-12-22 16:09:56 · answer #9 · answered by dd 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's life
2006-12-22 14:32:17 · answer #10 · answered by smeezleme 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋