Should I have expected a Christmas Present from a new boyfriend?

Question

I have been seeing this guy for over 2 months. He is very sweet and kind.......... I thought it would be thoughtful for me to get him a christmas gift.........not expecting anything. ... Well.... the day I gave him his gift... I did not recieve anything... We had sex... He said he wanted to please me... But that was it... Deep inside my feelings were hurt.......... Should I be hurt?.. His going out of town to visit his family, I won't see him for almost two weeks. With that said.. I feel that was kind of rude.... I would have been ok with a kiss............. Maybe not..... Need some input.... I am confused.

Thanks for all your comments, It does help to get some input.... I agree with most your answers. Best wishes........ Besos.

Answer 1

Over two months? Hmmm . . . that's just beyond the threshold for giving gifts, if you ask me. He should have given you a little something. You shouldn't be bothered that he went out of town to see his family. Now MAYBE he will have something for you when he gets back, if you gave him the gift on very short notice before he had to leave. What's bothering me more than that is that your sleeping with the guy already, after only two months. That's something you should save for marriage, or at least for a more serious relationship than this one.

Think about it . . . you aren't sure if you should get a Christmas present from him, but you're having sex with him?! That's a more than a bit ironic if you ask me. Good luck!

Answer 2

Is he frequently variety and thoughtful? Does he furnish you with presents for different activities? For some it is a deal breaker. I almost under no circumstances receive a present for any get at the same time, and that i in many circumstances replicate on the actual incontrovertible truth that each and daily kindness will be an stunning present. I basically study your edit and it sounds like he's not the present giving variety. Is he thoughtful most of the time? He would not sound like marriage cloth until eventually he places you earlier than Mum. i does not sit down round waiting for that to take position. you basically choose a thoroughly diverse guy. the actual incontrovertible truth that he's not getting you a present is kinda the icing on the cake of the finished undesirable courting. bypass locate someone who places you first. some adult males basically hate to purchase and do not extremely understand what to get so this would nicely be his way of copping out. To spend both Christmas Eve or Day at the same time and practice a particular meal for an additional will be an excellent change. this would nicely be a difficulty that makes you 2 superior or breaks you up. you need to pick how a lot you extremely love him and in case you've faith that he extremely loves you.

Answer 3

It depends on how the two of you spend your time together. If it’s all sex then no don’t expect anything but if the two of you are serious about a long-term thing then you should have received something, if anything a card. He said he wanted to pleasure you as a “present” who do you think got the true benefit of that gift, him! The same situation happened to me and we ended up being together for 2 years and never once did I ever get any gifts. He was a real cheap ***. If you are upset tell him and see if he “wants” to redeem himself if not have your fun and leave it at that don’t start some long-term thing. Remember he will never change.

Answer 4

Maybe he didn't have money to buy you anything, and couldn't come out and let you know this. Some guys really don't think as we females do, he couldn't have been thinking that you have only been dating 2 months and therefore is to early to buy each other gifts. He might have asked someone for advice and was told not to buy you anything.
Why if your feelings were hurt did you have sex...just to please him. Sure you feelings are hurt we females get our feelings hurt easier than a male. Just forget about it and go on with your relationship, I really don't believe he was trying to hurt your feelings on purpose.

Answer 5

It's ok to not want to get gifts in return in fact that's good and it's ok to be a little hurt that he didn't give you something in return but look at it this way maybe he didn't know what to get you. Guess he figures you and him having sex should of been good enough present for you. have you asked him about it? maybe he doesn't relize that he hurts you so much. Just don't let it get to you and be happy with whatever happens. Maybe he'll return with someone for you.

Answer 6

He is taking you for granted since you are already giving him sex after knowing him only two months. He should have bought you a nice present. He seems very selfish and self centered. Slow down the pace of your relationship until you get to know his true intentions and character (No more sex). Merry Christmas!

Answer 7

You shouldn't expect anything when giving gifts. It sets you up for disappointment. That being said, he's clearly not as sweet and kind as you would believe. Ask him for a gift receipt the next time a special occasion arises and he wants to "please" you. That way, you can exchange it for something worth your time.

Answer 8

well yes i would take the gift from him and that is not kool what he said to u and is this the first time that you have had sex with him.... do u ever go out with him like out to eat or to the movies and things like that.... well if you would like to talk about this more then email me at [e-mail]

Answer 9

It sounds like he did give you a present...the old summer sausage. Dump him he is selfish, he got a present and sex...you got hurt feelings. That is a sign of things to come if you keep dating this bum.

Answer 10

Just be happy with what you have. If he's an amazing guy, then that's all that should matter. Maybe he's planning something really special and is waiting to give it to you.