I met this guy online wierdly enough from a profile site. We met after talking for a few days and got along right off the bet and the chemistry was definately there. We are very comfortable with eachother and enjoy eachothers company. We have spoken about relationships but we dont think its time to add the label. A few questions...
1. How do i know if hes ready for a serious relationship?
2. How long should I wait before giving myself to him...
2006-12-22 06:08:42 · 13 answers · asked by confused 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
1. He will tell you.
2. Hold out as long as possible. The longer the better. Guys like a challenge and if your too easy or too available he will quickly lose interest. The general rule is after the third date. But six weeks is a better guide. AND the longer you can hold out the stronger the committment you will get from him. This is one of those things where if you hold out and he disappears - then you know what he was after. But if he sticks around anyway - w/out sex - then he is really into you as the person.
2006-12-22 06:12:46 · answer #1 · answered by Chula 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
1. You don't say how long this has been going on. You say "we don't think its time to add the label". Who brought this up? Take your time. If he is interested, he will let you know. Get to know each other more. If this is a short time relationship you both still have a lot to know about each other. As long as you both enjoy each others company you will have time to take the next step. Don't rush it.
2. You should have that committed relationship before giving yourself. It takes all the questions out. If he's really into you he'll be there.
2006-12-22 14:23:48 · answer #2 · answered by tonguelashing5551 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends on you and your feelings. People don't realize it, but having sex develops feelings and emotions that you may not want to have. If you don't think it's time to put a label on a relationship then it's probably not the right time to have sex. Of course a lot of people engage in meaningless sex, but with the AIDS crisis around the world, it's just not safe. You cannot base your decision on a bunch of yahoo answers because you will be the one that will have to deal with the consequences. Please think about what you choose before you take that leap. Good luck!
2006-12-22 14:34:17 · answer #3 · answered by TRUST_ME 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
1. Simply ask him!
"Are you ready for a long term or a short term realtionship?"
He shouldn't have a problem with this question it's a simple yes or no!
2. Wait at least a month!
Don't just wanna met this guy over the internet and expect he's going to be ur furture husband.
Give him time and see if he's actuly wanna be with you, not that he met you just for sex!
2006-12-22 14:14:00 · answer #4 · answered by jEfFeRsOnAiRpLaNe 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you've already talked about the "serious relationship" and he's not ready. If he was he wouldn't mind "putting a label on it". There's no specific time period to wait. Let it happen when it feels right.
2006-12-22 14:12:31 · answer #5 · answered by dil7827 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well obviously he's not ready for a serious relationship if he agreed not to add any labels. As far as sex goes, I would give it at least a month if you just met him and you're ok with him not being committed to you.
2006-12-22 14:13:00 · answer #6 · answered by NoName113 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Umm you only know if you ask.so you shoudl ask him how he feels and as far as sex. you should wait until YOU are eady nobody can tell you how you feel but remember be wise because sex just to people rubbing and stuff. its supposed to have emotion and feelings you guys are turning into 1 and special so use it wisely cause once you do ti the reltionship will be different whether for good or bad
2006-12-22 14:22:35 · answer #7 · answered by Princess Nunu 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Check your ring finger. If the wedding ring is there, the time is right to do the deed.
If not, you will just be giving it away to some guy, and then your future husband will get sloppy seconds.
And even though the future husband wont say, he will be thinking in his mind that he got leftovers.
2006-12-22 14:15:15 · answer #8 · answered by Peter X. Long 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
1. Talk to him. You can't know for sure unless he tells you. If you're ready and you feel insync with him, it's possible that he's ready too.
2. Wait until you're ready.
2006-12-22 14:13:45 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Give it some time - get to know him - see if you "love" him...
He will respect you - and waiting will not stop his desire.....
If you give yourself you are opening yourself to heartbreak -see if he deserves someone like you... first!
If you want it to last - take it slow!!
2006-12-22 14:14:51 · answer #10 · answered by Slim Jim 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋