We are both 14 and his parents wont let us spend time with each other, everytime we try to make plans he is grounded or is just not allowed to go. His parents dont like me to go over, How could i make them allow us to spend time with each other???
2006-12-22 05:52:44 · 14 answers · asked by Sarah 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Be nice to them and give them time to understand that you will wait around. Never be rude to them, it's their rules and you need to play by them.
2006-12-22 05:55:33 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hello dear,
When I read your question/details I thought ok first of all you are 14 yrs of age. And though this may not be what you want to hear you and your boyfriend must realize that neither of you are adults and you'll have to follow those rules set by your parents.
Those rules may not make sense to you both now but later it will. I understand that you would like to spend time with him and he you. But as another person stated there may be some reasons for his parents saying no at this time.
I don't suggest you do anything but listen to what is being told and be respectful of his parents rules. The last thing you want to do is make the situation worse for you by not obeying them. If you think they don't like you now, imagine what their thoughts of you would be then.
Purchasing gifts and sweetening his parents up? No , don't even go there. Trust me his parents have been there done that and know all the little tricks to what you and their son could possibly do.
Do you know why they don't care/like you? If not then maybe you could call and speak with one of his parents and kindly ask.. Here's an example " ma'am or sir how are you today? I was wondering what is the reason that you don't like me? what have I done? because whatever it is I'd like to make it right, if I said something or done something I'd like the chance to apologize."
So it sounds like kissing butt.. well in a sense it is, but in another you can't fix something or even start to change something if you don't know what you've done, said or why someone doesn't like you for whatever reasons. I am going to guess it's more than likely a rumor that the parents have heard about you from other childrens parents.
Other than that dear there isn't a lot that you can do but follow the rules and not make it worse. Keep in mind that your not an adult and he isn't either. Words teenagers don't want to hear but it's the truth dear.
Hang in there and sooner or later things will work out. Don't push this issue with your boyfriend either because you have to understand that he can't help this just as you can't.
Best of luck!!
2006-12-22 14:13:47 · answer #2 · answered by ssgtmommy01 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
They are parents and you can't "make" them do anything. You are only 14 so dating is at least 2 years off. If you go to the same school, eat lunch together. Hang out during study hall. Ask if phone calls are ok. If they say no, there is nothing you can do about it. You will grow up soon enough, don't rush it.
2006-12-22 13:57:04 · answer #3 · answered by grrl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i have this same problem with this girl but her parents a super strict and we live far from each other. Talk to him alot, communicate alot with each other and how you feel so u can trust one another. Maybe right now at the moment u cant be with each other physically but u guys can be there emotionally and make the physical connection better. Just give it time, trust me im in the same situation if not worse.
2006-12-22 13:57:24 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him you would like to meet his parents and if you do meet his parents then act polite and to be on the safe side stay for about 10- 20 minutes so you won't start getting to nervous, if you do get nervous just start pretending it's one of your friends parents and ask for a glass of water!You might want your parents to meet his and talk to each other!
2006-12-22 13:56:43 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go over and have a talk with his parents with out him there. it will let them get use to you and get to know you much more. maybe they dont really know what kind of a person you are. ensure them that if you do come over you two will stay where the parents can see you if they are worried about things happening.
2006-12-22 13:55:59 · answer #6 · answered by Heather 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
His parents are just in denial or afraid that you will get distracted from school. the problem is they don't realize, that children with raging hormones do stupid things like steal the car and sneak over there at night. To forbid you from seeing him could be dangerous. They should get over thier fears...you should tell them that...non threatningly.
2006-12-22 14:13:14 · answer #7 · answered by kikumatsu 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just follow the rules. eventualy they will see you are a repectable girl since you are obeying them. they will come around. you guys are really young. better you learn the ropes now. theres no point to making this a big splash you know? making this a big deal. your only goign to make it worse. just relax and enjoy the time you do have. talk on the phone. things will get better with time.
2006-12-22 13:56:14 · answer #8 · answered by Tian 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe things are going on in his home that you don't know about. The parents might have a good reason for being strict.
2006-12-22 13:54:42 · answer #9 · answered by danika1066 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are only 14. You must respect, regard, obey and observe the order of elders.
2006-12-22 13:56:49 · answer #10 · answered by akandaa 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋