Please some one help me. WHat should I do when I have a ex who won't let go?

Question

We been going out for a year and a couple of months, through out the whole relationship theres been nothing but agruing and fighting. We finally got passed it, and well I want to move on. But everytime I do that he makes me feel bad for leaving him. I tell we can still be friends. Im not in love with him anymore I just have a friendship love. I just want to be happy and Its like thats a crime if I do that because he feels hurt. He says all he wants to do is see me happy, but why is making feel guilty for leaving him. I just cant do it anymore with, I cry everytime I think about leaving because I am afraid of karma, afraid this might happen to me one day. But Im young Im only 18 Im not ready to settle down with anyone yet, not until I have a steady job and a good education. Please someone tell what should I do?

Answer 1

Be kind but firm. In the long run you're helping him . He will eventually find someone who loves him as will you.
Don't worry about karma. Bad Karma happens when you treat people badly and enjoy it. You are taking care of yourself.
Good luck.

Answer 2

You should not stay in a relationship which gives you negative emotions like sad and guilt.This isnt going to get any better coz you fell out of love for reasons like fight and arguments.Your decision is absolutely right.But if he truely loves you he should let you go instead of attaching you to his strings.
If you are afraid of karma you should sit down and talk to your ex and tell him honestly that you are not happy with this relationship and you wanna move on.If he agrees to make this relationship better for you,you need to give him a chance.Wait and see if he can make it better.But if you dont see any signs of progress,you need to move on without feeling guilty.
My ex totally ignored me and made me feel very bad about myself by telling me indirectly that i was useless.Despite of his accusations i stood by him coz i truely loved him.But as time passed i couldnt stand his negligence,so i asked him the cause for neglect.He reacted by saying that,'' if you ask me such questions i will break up with you''.So i dumped him before he did coz i couldnt take his abuse and crap anymore.I moved on and suggest you to do the same as karma will not effect if we get off abusive relationships with sick bfs.

Answer 3

Don't let him guilt you into coming back to him. Break it off completely...trying to be friends at this stage is not an option. What you need is time and space in order to get past the emotional aftermath of a break-up. As to karma....honey, being dumped by someone isn't nearly as bad as spending the rest of your life with someone who makes you miserable.

Answer 4

You have to be honest with him. Maybe distance is what is needed right now. For some people it is harder to get over an ex if they are still around. Don't stay around because of pity because it won't help either of you.

You are right you are young and need to experience life. Tell him that you can ONLY be friends and either he takes that or nothing. And stop with the guilt trip. He is playing on your emotions. He knows your buttons..

Answer 5

Sometimes its hard to let go.
I understand where he is coming from.
Its particularly hard for him as he still loves you, but you aren't reciprocating the feeling, which you cant really help doing. Its a one way break up, its not like you both want to, just you do.
He will be upset for some time, just be there as much as possible as a friend and he will move on in time.

Answer 6

my best advice would be and you know that because you mention those things you really need to go and think, try to get a steady job and a good education. Good Luck to You!