i cant help it he needs to get me in the mood so now he says he aint going to do it anymore i said then im not either what should i do.
2006-12-22 05:13:10 · 27 answers · asked by cinerella19772 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
get a toy
2006-12-22 05:15:05 · answer #1 · answered by Stephen R 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Then get a new man. Any man that says he won't go down is no man at all. And any man that says he doesn't enjoy going down is not a man to have in your bed.
As far as taking too long, what's the hurry.
If you don't want to get rid of the bum then teach him how to get you off. If you think you take too long to have the response you would like to have, then mastur bate and learn what works for you. Then teach him.
Good luck and enjoy. I remember sex; it was fun. It should be fun.
2006-12-22 05:30:57 · answer #2 · answered by Hank Hill 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He needs to stop being in such a rush. Sex is not a race to see who can *** first, and many, many men need to realize this fact. It takes a little longer for women to get "warmed up", so a man who understands this and is willing to put forth the effort is a God-send...and also a very rare find, unfortunately.
2006-12-22 05:18:57 · answer #3 · answered by Heather C 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe, you could start getting yourself in the mood? Just a thought. The other possibility is for him to start with going down and then switch to using something else to keep up the stimulation. That's what I do with my girlfriend and she hasn't given me any complaints.
2006-12-22 05:17:12 · answer #4 · answered by iuneedscoachknight 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok, first, don't be embarrased to use actual terms (such as oral sex, orgasm, etc.). Second, if he isn't willing to do for you what you do for him and doesn't put your satisfaction first every once in a while, he isn't worth your time. It takes a man 60 seconds to orgasm where it takes a woman almost 20 minutes. Get a vibrator and make sure he sees it. If he doesn't wisen up, just walk.
2006-12-22 05:20:14 · answer #5 · answered by -Bibee- 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
that sucks. It happened to me before also. It's not your fault. I learned that the guy was just not great at it, because after i broke up with him i found someone that could do it much faster.
Just do what you said you would do-hold out. But that will not last long. So maybe you should tell him how to do it.
2006-12-22 05:16:46 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
What else stimulates you? See if he will use fingers or a toy or his penis or whatever it takes to get you more worked up before he puts his tongue down there...
Having known guys who were difficult to get off orally, I can relate to their issue with we women who seem to be able to hold out forever while their tongue has gone beyond numb...
Talk to him about how to make the whole experience more enjoyable for you both...don't let it be a situation of "if you don't do this for me then i'm not going to do that for you"...that's childish...
...besides, don't you enjoy oral even if you don't orgasm? Even if he doesn't always get you off, that's no reason for him to cease the activity altogether...that would be a deal breaker for me...
2006-12-22 05:17:01 · answer #7 · answered by . 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
tell him he needs to get you in the mood first, maybe help him get you in the mood somehow...When my boyfriend goes down on me, i'm already in the mood because he does something that gets me horny, he doesn't just go down right away the first second we're alone, he gets me horny first then does it, just tell him and when he asks how tell him what you like the most that he does that gets you in the mood the fastest...Good Luck
2006-12-22 05:21:49 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get a NEW man! If it's taking you too long to *** HE is NOT doing a good job! You need to leave him now! Trust me when you get a lickin' it will definetely make you *** QUICK! Find a new guy honey....Don't miss out on ***ing! Good luck
2006-12-22 05:17:35 · answer #9 · answered by m91342 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are referring to him being a cunning Liguist. You might want to consider some sanitary measures because an off odor or taste down there can make a guy even consider becoming gay.
2006-12-22 05:16:12 · answer #10 · answered by alwaysmoose 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
He's a selfish creep. How many men " u know what" fast. They ALL take forever. You're right not to give it to him unless he returns the "favor". btw, try a vibrator, they're usually better than him anyway!!
2006-12-22 05:23:14 · answer #11 · answered by isis8x3 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋