My boyfriend of five years is starting to act funny.. Okay In the last four months I have been sexual with him four times in four months..He always says that he is to tired or just plain burned out..He is a cop. This is getting to much I mean I feel that I don't even know him anymore..I do understand that begin a cop is very stressful. My father was a cop for twelve years. I tell my boyfriend I understand where he is coming from with begin stressed and not having the engery he ONCE had..Does anyone think that he could be with some one else?? I am starting to get miserable, sexual frustrated. I feel that maybe I should just go home and forget all this and him.. Well he does try to make me happy by doing little things but I don't want anything I just want him to say I love you once in awhile or even just kiss me.. Yes he don't kiss me or even say I love you..I talk to him about it all the time and ask him why he don't do any of these things. Am I asking to much???
2006-12-22 04:43:34 · 16 answers · asked by Stunna 25 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
He is a cop. He is a cheat. and he is probably banging some under age girl. Go home . Have some self respect an hook up with someone decent.
2006-12-22 05:04:15 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
It has only been for the past 4 months. You know that his job is stressful so what the problem? You are sexually frustrated then go get you a toy and please yourself. If you want to leave this man because he isnt being sexual because he is stress then you would be doing him a favor by going home. You need to do some research on the www about stress and depression. Some of the things he see at work might not be easy to shake. He hasnt given you a reason to doubt him but if your relationship is based only on him pleasing you then leave.
2006-12-22 13:06:49 · answer #2 · answered by justturning40 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it might be time for a heart to heart talk. There could be many reasons for his lack of interest or energy.
It is only fair if the feelings have changed on either side, that it is expressed to the other partner.
You worrying about what if's is not good for you and will cause you stress and might effect how you treat him.
Don't get upset or mad, make a time when there is a quiet place where you won't be disturbed. Talk , don't bully for the truth. Be gentle and kind and ask for an honest answer. Once you have it you can do what is necessary to move on or try to rectify the situation.
Don't jump the guns here..... you need to talk to him.....
2006-12-22 12:57:18 · answer #3 · answered by doclakewrite 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok... You won't like this... and a bunch of women that love cops are going to say that it isn't true:
Sounds like he is cheating on you:
ALL COPS CHEAT ON THEIR WIVES AND GIRLFRIENDS.
They just think that rules do not apply to them. Answer this question for yourself... has he ever used his position to get out of a traffic violation, or to get any free stuff ?
If so.. that was wrong. Men with stressful jobs need sex too...
Once a month ? < Betcha that his other girl is getting it more than once a month.
2006-12-22 12:56:05 · answer #4 · answered by Badspe11er 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Thats tough because you want to be a good wife but you CAN'T be if he wont meet you half way! If you love him, keep trying to communicate and make sure he knows how you are feeling, and that you are willing and able to make it work! If your gut is telling you that he is getting sex from somebody else, then go with it and leave because most of the time, womens intuition is on point.
2006-12-22 12:53:29 · answer #5 · answered by Luna 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My ex was a cop and he was the same way. We finally found out that he had PTSD (post-traumatic stress disorder). Look it up online. He probably won't change but it will help you to understand him better and make the decision whether you should stay with him or not.
2006-12-22 12:47:36 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
no your not asking for to much,but borroow a friends car and follow him ,if you see something you dont like ,dont start anything just leave,and be gone by the time he gets home ,and let him know he messed up and finna feel it cause he done loss you for good
2006-12-22 12:50:44 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've known a lot of cops, and they all got a few women they see "through the job" waitresses, strippers, and such. Move on and get over it. You know the drill.......
2006-12-22 13:06:26 · answer #8 · answered by CuriousMishawaka 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This one is easy. If you trust him, make sure he knows how you feel and leave it at that. If you don't totally trust him for some reason, leave. You can't have a relationship with out total trust and understanding.
2006-12-22 12:49:35 · answer #9 · answered by warriorchic84 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go home and stop giving the milk away free. Know for sure that if he is getting free from you, he probably is getting it free from somewhere else too and too and too.
2006-12-22 12:48:21 · answer #10 · answered by LOLO W 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋